Testimonials

General & Courses

“I had heard a few people talk about how your classes are interesting and informative, and that you are engaging and entertaining as a presenter. I think I can safely say that their claims were understated!”

— Mark Heyn, Adelaide, Australia

“…Of all the teachers I’ve had over the years, you’re the guy that I consider to have been the most transformative for me. . . . It’s a rare sort of skill to be able to teach someone to be better at doing something, and at the same time manage to teach them to be a better person.

—Max Last (South Carolina)

“The opportunities you created were so much of what I had hoped for, and their integration continues here at home, in my heart and family. I feel like there is still so much to chew on, and lovely images and ideas that your rituals brought to the surface.”

—Leanne (Toronto, Ontario)

“Over the past couple of years, the resources, writings, and podcasts you’ve shared have really helped me build a happier and healthier life for myself. Thank you for all of the work that you do! You’ve helped me come to a lot of important realizations and let my true self shine through!”

—Wendy Bolm (Oakland, California)

“Lee Harrington’s charismatic style combined with a relaxed yet controlled repertoire with the audience was wonderful. I love it when workshops work.”

—zoe (Portland, Oregon)

“Lee makes sure that everyone in the class gets personal attention if they need it, and teaches in such a way that everyone, from beginner to expert can follow along and learn the technique before moving on.

But most impressive is Lee’s energy and creativity. If you attend one of Lee’s classes, you will NOT be disappointed (except when it ends and you have to go home). You will laugh, you will make friends, you will have a great time, and – above all – you will LEARN.”

—Carmen (Columbus, Ohio)

Books

Shibari You Can Use

“I just wanted to personally thank you for your books on Shibari. You don’t know me at all and we never met, but your writings on ropes changed my kinky life forever. You introduced me this incredible world; you allowed me to build enough skills and confidence to go out there and learn even more; you helped me build my identity as a dominant; and your techniques filled my like with countless hours of priceless fun. So yeah: thanks a whole bunch, Lee!”

—Philippe (Quebec City, Quebec)

Lee Harrington is an incredible instructor, and this book is a wonderful distillation of his accessible, friendly approach and gorgeous, creative rope work. I especially enjoyed the chest harness variations and rope corsets. Highly recommend this book! :—)
— Shay Tiziano (California) (Author of Tying and Flying: Bondage for Self—Suspension)

Can a book change your life? yes. have always been interested in shibari and my rope explorations was getting a little stale. previous books were a little too intricate for me......then I saw this book and WOW, rope is fun again. Well written with easy to understand photo illustrations and concise instructions. I bought the second book and cannot wait for it to arrive!

— M.A. Adkins (New York, NY)

I'm extremely new to learning rope and purchased this book to help guide me. I attended several classes and left feeling overwhelmed from information overload. With this book and it's simply step—by—step instructions, I can use what I learned from the classes and practice at my own pace. I recommend this book.

— Dion Lorah

This is a great book for all levels. The illustrations in here show a variety of body sizes and sexual orientation. I love that because no one should feel like this is not for them. Easy to follow.

— Larry Wharton

More Shibari You Can Use

Another brilliant book from Lee. No longer do you need to just look at the wonders of rope bondage, this book will lead you step by step into producing it for yourself. A must for all fans of rope.

— Steve Carr (Christchurch, New Zealand)

Wow, just received my copy of Lee Harrington new book "More Shibari You Can Use," and I am absolutely blown away! This title is a leap and a bound beyond any other rope tying guide on the market I have yet come across. In addition to all the standard ties and safety recommendations found in other books, Lee adds a wealth of information on scene negotiation, rope energy and connection, rope and erotic power, and rope community and culture. The ties he demonstrates come from a variety of traditions ranging from shibari to macrame. He even includes instructions on the somerville cuff, a tie develop by San Francisco's Topologist. Filled with beautiful full—color pictures, the book features models of all genders, orientations, races, and sizes. Whether you are an experienced rope artist or a beginner top looking to learn, you'll take away something from this excellent publication!

— Gayle Roberts (San Francisco, CA)

Sacred Kink

“A copy of Sacred Kink has made its way into my home and I want to say thank you. You have somehow managed to give me the words for so many things I have somehow felt or known intuitively, but couldn’t quite explain.

With your work I now have a vocabulary to base my own work on…and I am grateful.”

—Jessie Morris (Alberta, Canada)

Bought this book after attending a workshop with Lee — I can't get enough of his content, it's like food for my kinky little soul.

— Frankie (Southern Oregon)

I took a class with Lee and find his content and life experience incredibly valuable. Decided to get his book and I love how approachable it is — he breaks down the content into accessible ways, includes various examples (both kinky and non—kinky to illustrate his points and the various ways the 8 fold paths can manifest in our lives) and also makes the information valuable to newbie and an "old timer" like myself valuable. Even though I've been in the community for a while, I learned a lot from his book — it expanded my horizons and how I view a lot of things. Yet he also breaks things down really nicely if you are new and just starting out. I highly recommend this book, and it's nice that you can pop in and out of sections too. I had a lot of "aha!" moments and it rekindled my sacred kink spark too, which was great.

— Living Bicoastal

The book is divided into 8 paths. All different but interconnected. Lee blends sex magic, tantra, taoist sexual practices, bdsm, energy work, meditation & self healing/inner work into one seamless primmer. I love the way he throw's out all these different view's and perceptions...It is so good that I read a page and have to go straight to my note book to pour out the sparks he's conjured. It's like he wrote the book just for me even though he wrote it for all seekers on the path to higher ecstasy and sacred sexuality.

— Benjamin Brownstone (Canada)

What I most enjoyed about this book was Lee's efforts to provide detailed information about each path and create a framework for people from multiple belief systems to engage in the incorporation of kink to their spirituality. Lee's expertise as both a sex educator and spiritual teacher shows through in this book time and time again. He provides excellent examples and also useful definitions for understanding each path. I found a lot in this book that I know I can apply to my own spiritual practices and I think anyone else would find a similar treasure trough.

— Taylor Elwood (Portland, OR)

My copy of Sacred Kink arrived only a few days ago and I'm already on page 66. I'm devouring it!! There are a few editing blips that could be cleared up in the next edition but it doesn't detract from the message. Lee's voice comes through loud and clear and its very apparent he knows what he's talking about. Honestly, I think this book will likely stand the test of time as one of the most important works of reference and education for the BDSM Master and initiate alike. Anyone venturing into new kinky territory in their lives will be enlightened and emboldened by this book. Bravo!

— Day—Z (Black Rock City, NV)

In the Judeo—Christian tradition, we're used to denying our bodies and discounting them in favor of focusing on the Spirit. Lee Harrington demonstrates the many ways in which we can use the body and its sensations as a gateway to spiritual experiences. Whether it's growth, healing, catharsis, insight or union with the Divine, Harrington explains the tools ancient and modern practitioners have used to achieve these ends, pulling from many cultures, religions and current teachers. Lee discusses the risks and rewards along each of the 8 paths in his system in a very accessible, entertaining style, often illustrating his points with anecdotes from personal experience. This wide—ranging, well—thought—out book is a valuable resource for those who can see the potential of uniting spirituality, physicality and even sexuality in their personal practice.

I must make clear, as the other reviewers have, that this book is not for those new to either bdsm or Paganism or magickal practice, but for those who already have a grounding in those worlds looking to go further.

— Chris Waterous (Illinois)

Sexuality and spirituality are often treated as opposing concepts, but Lee Harrington makes it clear that the sacred and the profane are not so far removed from one another. Sexual and religious exploration can take place at the same time, often using the same tools and methods, with powerful results. Sacred Kink is a sex—positive (and quite sexy) study of the search for meaning, self and identity through BDSM. Harrington calls upon an amazing scope of religious study, weaving aspects of Buddhism, paganism, and dozens of other faiths through his depictions of sexual play. He deconstructs the power behind the rituals of yoga, sexual relationship dichotomies (e.g., Master/slave) and role—playing, monkish asceticism, body piercing, ecstatic dance, and so many other concepts. This book is densely packed with information, so reading it is a slow but rewarding process.

Each chapter contains factual studies of "tools of the trade", drawing parallels between tools of the traditional spiritual variety (e.g., chanting, meditation, fasting) and the traditional tools of kink (e.g., floggers, costumes, leathers). This book is definitely not a dry—mouthed religious studies text, though. Sacred Kink is ripe with suggestions for personal practice, setting up scenarios for the healthy and adventurous exploration of control, sharing, enticement, curiosity, power, weakness, and the infinite. In addition, each of the eight chapters begins, splits, and ends with a steamy first—person narrative that illustrates the core concepts of the chapter. These erotic stories, set apart visually from the instructive or academic segments, help to draw out the meaning and significance of the chapters.

Harrington doesn't shy away from tackling high—stakes issues and activities —— breath and blood flow play, astral projection, partaking of mind—altering substances, even offering one's body up as a vessel for a deity to ride. Such situations could overpower an unprepared practitioner, but if approached with planning, intention and a loving support network, could open up a whole new corner of the universe for the lucky supplicants, or illuminate dark, forgotten corners and offer a precious chance for healing. All of the paths Harrington explores are laced with softly worded warnings. He includes lots of preparatory questions to ask oneself, mundane factors to address beforehand and during set—up, reminders to check in with yourself and your partner(s). The language is comforting, humorous, and always open — he assures us that even if a scene doesn't quite go the way it was supposed to, it can still be a success as long as everyone brings positive energy to the gathering.

This book might be a little heavy for a novice looking for an instructive guide; however, Harrington's friendly tone is welcoming and reassuring , so the book could be useful as a source of inspiration, even if you can't put the ideas into practice right away. Sacred Kink would be ideal for someone looking to push beyond their borders, a seeker looking to take another step forward. Or you could just flip through for the naughty bits. There is so much for a reader to take from this book and for that reason, it can be whatever you wish to make of it. (Thanks to Ms. Stephanie Morris for reviewing this with me!)

— Ruthie and Ms. Stephanie Morris (Washington D.C.)

Traversing Gender

This is the perfect "Trans 101" book. I wish I had had it when I taught Intro to Queer Studies a few years ago, and I will be using it the next time I teach that class. It is approachable and comprehensive, not an easy feat. I also like that it acknowledges that people may struggle with some of the concepts put forth, and gives ideas for how to navigate that discomfort. One of my favorite features is the list of individuals at the end of the chapters on different gender identities —— it really helps readers see that trans and gender variant people are all around. I cannot recommend this book enough.

— Susan Harper (Gilbert, Iowa)

As a person who identifies as non-binary myself and a healthcare provider, I have been looking for a good basic primer on the many nuances of this topic that I can refer people to rather than answer questions from my admittedly limited perspective. Lee Harrington has many years of experience and a broad understanding of this topic, In addition, it is clear that the book is rigorously researched and the author has drawn on a plethora of resources which are clearly referenced for further study by the reader. The material is presented in comprehensive way and still manages to be approachable and easy to read. This book would make a great supplementary text for enhancing cultural competence in a variety of disciplines and I strongly recommend it to any provider, parent, friend or family member of a transgender or gender non-conforming person, or simply any person interested in broadening their perspective on transgender issues.

— Monika M. (Connecticut)

Become Your Own Beloved

Different parts of accessible book will surely resonate with different readers. But as I was reading I was struck by how the author made sure to include examples, invitations, and stories that would resonate to a wide variety of people. I am sure that anyone picking up a copy will find some exercises or wisdom that unlocks a deeper connection with one’s self. Highly recommend.

— Ev (Denver, CO)

This book is amazing journey. Part self help, part introspection roadmap, it brings on delightful fits of self aware giggling and also shines a light on parts of me I need to acknowledge and work on. The included exercises are wonderful ways to practice the concepts, and I also very much appreciate the permission to use them in a variety of ways. Each exercise also includes variations to allow for a wide range of flexibility to account for different personal styles/abilities.

Overall, a really wonderful guide on a journey of self discovery and a great way to focus on caring for ourselves.

— Sosha Justice (Mesa, AZ)

I'm finding that the reflection exercises in each section are opening up conversations with my self that are deeply healing. Deep practicality and compassion are evident throughout.

— HG Wyndell (Michigan)

Toybag Guide to Age Play

This was the first book I bought in the Toybag series. it is great introduction to age play. It explains how you can have fun with age play Lee Bridget Harrington has written thoroughly yet in a simple user friendly way about all that can be tried in age play or role pay or more. It explains from His/Her experience. I recommend this book for BDSM lifestyler's Newbies and Veterans. It clears up the many misconceptions and judgement made about age play or age players. Well written and concise. This give insight to the psychology of age play as well. I totally recommend it.

— Heather L. Emry

This book is a good overview of ageplay in it's many forms. Lee writes in a clear tone, with great authority on this issue. Like all of the Toybag series, it will be of use to kinksters at any level of experience.

— Benny S. (Madison, WI)

The first non—fiction book written on age play. I can't recommend this book strongly enough. The latest in Greenery Press' Toybag series, which presents topics in a concise approachable fashion. Lee Harrington writes in a witty conversational style that will answer many of your questions about age play. A great book for those interested in age play and those who've found themselves having to explain to others "What It Is That We Do".

— T. Williams (Cocoa, FL)

Playing Well With Others

Wow. Just wow. I cannot stop myself from recommending this book to anyone & everyone. Whether you're curious about 'the Community', have been involved in the Community for years or have newly stumbled into it, this book is an excellent read!

I first became involved with the BDSM Community in 2001 & the Leather Community in 2005. I loved hearing the echo of many of my own thoughts and reflections from over the years rolled into one amazing book.

I simply *cannot* recommend this book enough…

— Isabella Donna DiLorento 

Lee Harrington and Mollena Williams take the reader by the hand and guide him/her through a unique and misunderstood social universe. It is a very generous, smart, and warm book that will help a lot people. If you are curious I wouldn't hesitate for a moment. Buy it.

— Baldwin P. Salinger

Playing Well with Others: Your Field Guide to Discovering, Exploring and Navigating the Kink, Leather and BDSM Communities by Lee Harrington and Mollena Williams is the quintessential guide for novices and seasoned players ready to enter the BDSM community. No other book like this exists so it’s a great addition to your personal kink library.

While other books focus on tying knots or how to throw a flogger this book help you figure out navigating munches, play parties and other sex communities. If you have ever wondered what a munch was like, how to prepare for a play party or get back to normal life after a kink event Mollena and Lee do an excellent job detailing the how—to’s in a personable, fun and conversational way.

This book is broken up into 11 chapters with 4 well thought out appendixes at the end. It’s laid out with Mollena and Lee caricatures sharing personal tidbits about experiences they have had and tips they suggest which do wonders at making you feel more normal in your desires to explore the kink communities.

My favorite chapters pertained to the types of people you’ll encounter at kink related events and how to behave at these gatherings. It also has a great chapter on understanding what you want to get out of the BDSM and sex community that you enter. But what doesn’t get much press online or in book form that had me reading intensely was the chapter on remaining happy and healthy before, during and after events with topics such as getting what you want and need out of an event, event drop, event crud, sickness, dissatisfaction and “re—framing” negative experiences.

By far the only book that tells it like it is when it comes to person to person interaction in the BDSM community and one of my top picks for newbies who are ready to take the plunge and meet some people, experience social interaction and more. You won’t want to skip this book.

The appendixes are just as important as the rest of the book and shouldn’t be overlooked. Other than the requisite glossary of terms the authors include information on symbols and flags of the kink lifestyle, negotiation and pre—planning worksheets and tips and an expansive further reading section with resources online, short essays right there in the appendix and other books available.

— lunaKM (Cedar Rapids, Iowa) (Producer of SubmissiveGuide.com)

Playing Well With Others is the Baedekers of the leather/BDSM/kink/alt—sex world! It is the first book to completely address the most important steps in negotiating the brave new kink universe — how to find it, pick what part you want to explore, talk to the natives and join in the fun. There is no other book like this — no tips on bondage or spanking here! Just how to find the sexually adventurous folks, how to talk to them, negotiate your way around, and find what you're looking for without being creepy, feeling dim, or acting too much like a tourist.

— Laura Antoniou (Flushing, NY) (Author of “The Marketplace” Series)

Playing Well with Others by Harrington and Williams is an indispensable guide and much needed addition to the literature on kinky communities. The authors are able to blend their expertise with a caring, accessible style that will feel welcoming to newcomers and seasoned explorers alike. Their writing invokes a perfect tone for mainstream readers while weaving in the levels of inclusiveness for which they are so well known in their communities. Not only do they offer a wealth of valuable information, they offer themselves as step—by—step coaches via original insight and explanations of many things that typically go unspoken. I would not hesitate to recommend this book to health practitioners and researchers as well; those who need to learn more about the topic for professional reasons will also have much to gain from this lovingly crafted, well—organized, and detailed book.

— Ruth Neustifter, Ph.D. (Geluph, Ontario) (Author of The Nice Girl's Guide to Talking Dirty)

Consider this book a safe haven for perverts. Wrap yourself in the reassuring language of Lee and Mollena's thorough overview of the myriad kink communities. Know that you will be well—equipped with an easy—to—navigate map that will take you from Vanilla Town to Rocky Road in style. Really, this book is an excellent primer for learning how to be a decent human being. The kink element is just an added bonus. I really enjoyed reading this emotionally intelligent book and was impressed with how they covered so many different backgrounds without weighing the text down. They even provided compassionate advice for creeps (how to deal with them and how not to be one!)

— Kendra Holliday (St. Louis, MO)

Brilliant—an instant classic! Playing Well With Others is destined to be the go—to guide to conscious kink for years to come. This engaging, fun and witty book is crammed with indispensable wisdom for newcomers and experienced players alike. I love this book!

— Barbara Carrellas (New York, NY) (Author of Urban Tantra: Sacred Sex for the Twenty—First Century and Ecstasy is Necessary: A Practical Guide)

Quotes by Lee

"So many of us spend more time getting to know other people and their desires than we do getting to know ourselves. We say things to ourselves that we would never let another person say to us. We treat our bodies in ways that we’d never treat anyone else. Why? Because when we don’t know someone, even if that someone is ourselves, it’s easier to ignore their needs, wants, dreams, and desires."

— Lee Harrington, "Become Your Own Beloved: A Guide to Delighting in Self-Connection."

"Self care is sexy."

— Lee Harrington

“Do not be fooled. Though it may come in the forms of play, sensual exploration, and bliss, this is the work of our souls. This journey has the potential for turning the flax, the straw, of our beings into the gold of our potential.”

— Lee Harrington, “Sacred Kink: The Eightfold Paths of BDSM and Beyond”

“There is no single cure—all pill for everyone. Each of us is unique, and what will guide us is a unique combination of the tools for sexual evolution out there.”
— Lee Harrington

“When we take any one voice as gospel, we diffuse the magic that comes from hearing a chorus of perspective.”
— Lee Harrington

“Examining where your passions are is key to developing a path that serves others from your place of excellence. Don’t let others potentially judging where you got here from stop you from serving the world.”
— Lee Harrington

“Authenticity is about diving into yourself to find what is there, having the courage to bring that awareness to your life, and be open to learning new things that may change how you look at the world… and yourself.”
— Lee Harrington