Ramblings about bondage and wheelchairs

someone on the adultropeart yahoo group asked about bondage in chairs, so here ya goDear chained angel,I have a long standing play partner in the Bay Area who has been in his chair due to elephantism for about 15 years. He and I play a few times a year, and we've only ever done one scene with him out of his chair. Plus, due to my hyper mobility disorder, when my knees or hips go out of socket, I sometimes spend time in a chair myself. I've also, at an event, suspended someone in a chair. For folks who don't live with them, I'm referring to all of the above as wheelchairs- yes, I have also tied people up in 4-legged and 3-legged chairs as well, but there are some differences I have encountered.When playing with my play partner in Marin, he and I enjoy a few repeating themes.1) even if he can't feel it, doing CBT with him in front of a mirror is incredibly hot. In fact, we do a lot of stuff with me video taping him (or he me) or using mirrors so after the scene he gets a full idea of how beautiful I found him in the moment.2) Facial bondage is so fucking hot, on anyone3) The Chair has no sensation. That is so important for riggers to remember. So is it fun to tie the wheels in place for me, not really once that clicked in for me (it took me being ina chair to get that, sigh). So I'll often just lock he wheels in place and look, now I have a thousand anchor points for my bondage- puch bars, rest bars, undercarriage, wheels, etc.4) You can do standard chest harnesses around the body of the chair to ad extra support and keep people upright.5) Unless your mobility is just restricted legs-down, or you have a chair with no push bars or any metal support in the back, trying to do any poses with hands pulled stringently behind the bottom are a pain in the ass. I recommend poses where the arms are pulled overhead and then back, or crossed in front, or tied down to the rest bars, or crossed and tied to rest bars.6) Layers and the commitment of time is hot.7) What makes bondage hot for you? If it is about touch- touch! If it is about pain, then use pain. If it is about fear play, find out ahead of time if trust and fear play concerning the restricted mobility issues are ok. What do I mean? One of my ex-partners, when I came home at the airport in a chair, met me and was wheeling me around. He knew I liked fear play, so decided to fuck with me and pop wheelys, threaten to spill me out of my chair, etc. This was NOT sexy, NOT fun, and freaked me the fuck out and led me to not trust him concerning my medical stuff for a while. It was bad. He thought he was doing fear play on me, while I was just in fear that I would fall out of my chair and dislocate something new.8) Wheelchair suspension- DO NOT use wheels as the primary anchor points as they move. Use the body of the chair, the support grid/structure. I often anchor off to the metal undercarriage, and use that to create a web of lines going up to hold the chair upright. If I am doing anything but a straight up into the air pose, I anchor the person in the chair into the chair first, and make sure they aren't going to slip out. Achoring to push-bars is only good if the bars are actually secure- often older chairs or badly made chairs, or hell, there are some designed this way- the push bars and sometimes the entire back support come right off.9) When I wear heels, his push bars are at exactly the right height to fuck myself... see again mirrors. This is ONLY ok if the person is alright with you fetishizing the chair itself. Many folks are not, and when I've mentioned this before, or posted images of him in his chair with him playing with hot women, I've had other folks with disabilities freak out for me fetishizing the object of his distress... but for my play partner it is not an object of his distress, just part of his life, and he might as well enjoy it fully he figures.10) Be aware of the other health stuff going on for someone in a chair. One of the most embarrasing things I ever did with him was kneel on his colostomy bag. He was amused, I was horrified to have been so careless. It was a big mess, I cleaned it up, cleaned us up, and went back to playing because I wanted to show him I still care about him, not his condition. Other health stuff includes circulation issues (I sometimes combine leather cuffs with my bondage on him for this reason), breathing issues (are chest harnesses and other such things going to be ok), allergies (is hemp rope ok), and hell, a thousand other things.11) Make it sexy. What that is varries from person to person, but its something to consider. Is spending the time to lift out on overhead pulls to wriggle you into lingerie worth it, or do you just want to play in street clothes or nude? Is it hot or not to be disheveled in your street clothes. What about public play (putting on a chest harness or body harness under your clothes, getting dressed, then going out forthe day)...Just a few ideas. Feel free to poke me about specific questions as he and I have been play partners for about 4 years, and I occassionally play with other folks in chairs.Also, depending where you are, there is a fun group called "Crips with Whips" that sometimes has get togethers in the US for folks of varried disabilities sharing ideas for hot BDSM and D/s. The last one I went to we had folks in chairs, people with seeing eye dogs (one of my best rope students is a kick ass woman who can't see a thing, she has amazing attention to detail), folks from the deaf gay community (yes, there are entire leather titles for folks who are deaf), people with turrettes, people with mental conditions of different sorts, and an amazingly hot man with Lupus who has an intense rant about maintaining dominance in the face of daily pain and having a slave boy who gets it.Kisses,Lee "Bridgett" Harringtonwww.PassionAndSoul.com