Heros... Mentors... "Godfathers"...
In a recent journal entry, "BlessedInsanity" recently wrote the following of me, as one of his heros/mentors/godfathers/inspirations:Lee Harrington - Passionandsoul.com - I feel sometimes Lee get's pigeon holed into being "that rope guy". I am not into Rope Bondage but he has quietly pushed every creative juice button I have. Not only is his life story destined to be a made for TV movie, but everytime we speak he gets into my head. Open minded, honest, intuitive..these are the words that define this man.I find myself meditating on this. Not on his thoughts on me, which we've discussed over nacho cheez and soda, but about the notion of those who inspire, inform and mold our image of our sexual selves. I've had a lot of folks brush the mold, push it here and there, but there are some, by the nature of how and when they came into my lives or the events that transpired around them, that have done more than mooshed my sense of personal and sexual self. Below is not a complete list, a hard list, just some of those who have, in no particular order (and some of the lessons I learned):Mi MadreStand up and walk out of a bad situation. Better late than never. I didn't want to wait 8 years after life changes before I bought myself a bed big enough to have a lover sleep over.My Mother's MotherStand up for what you want. Be subversive. Go back to college at 50, dye your hair green, and live in the dorms. Blow bubbles in your soda. Listen to those that love you and stop the cycle of abuse and poor husband choices.JD LenzenBreathe in and find you. Know your creative self. Laugh out loud. Forgive yourself. Embrace your foibles and fetishes. Look back fondly on the innocent sexual creature you were.TobyPossibilities exist. Love will surprise you in its kindness, and its blindness. Foam fetish. That my truth is a valid one. Explore possibilities before pigeon-holing yourself. Only climb into a cage if it's your desire. Consent in advance does not always equal consent in the act. Open relationships can work. Safer sex is sexy.Craig/MarcusThings happen in the unlikeliest of places. Sometimes not knowing leaves hotter fantasies. Find out their definition of that thing. First impressions aren't always the truth. We don't always know what tomorrow will hold, and that is okay. I look sexy in rubber. Protocols and training can become cellular.Hunter D.Sweater Fetish. Violence Fetish. Other Taboo desires. That sometimes we have to walk away, no matter how much we love, for everyone's sanity. I am the man I need to be. Beauty tastes like little boy tears and service hounds. I carry greatness in my pores. Magic and love can dance between the stars and through burning fires.Susie BrightAsk the questions, like What happens for fisting in the 3rd trimester? If no one knows, find out. This body can pleasure itself, but elsewhere is fun too. Tell the sexual stories, the banned stories, they are OUR stories, and we need bards for every generation.Dan F.I deserve romance and serendipity. Understand structure, engineering, systems... but they can all be taken too far. Kiss someone unexpected.Ice Brett CamminsFTWTF. Doing scenes that confuse the DMs cause me pleasure. Kosher food is tasty, as are late night conversations. I can be forgiven my impulsive choices. Queer humans look friggin hot in their 50s, and I look forward to being one of them- after living this life right now.Martin/UkpyrMany humans don't mean to be asshats. Sometimes, you really need to spell it out. Age, gender and beauty are powerful tools that can be used for good or ill. Be careful whose hearts you harm, not all bounce back.Pat CalifiaThank you Lesbian SM Handbook.The Surrealist MovementThank you for helping me see that poly and open structures have been around and working for a long time.Charles GatewoodBlood and beauty in a variety of shapes and sizesGoldeneyesLove comes back between lifetimesJames Mogul and EdieRope. Yes. I understand.Scott Smith14 years ago in a dark dungeon, she screamed beneath him... and I knew that more lay ahead for me. And more recently, its never to late to open up your eyes, turn over a new leaf, and make a new choice.