How to Fuck Bridgett: A guide to navigating my body in the bedroom V2.0

Or the office, or on the beach, or in the swingers club, or...In 2003, some stuff happened that caused me to write this guide, a cheat-sheet about sex with me. 2 years have passed since I first wrote the guide, and I figure it’s time to brush it up, bring it up-to-date, and spend some time with myself reflecting… To be honest parts of this may change when I get my next round of piercings- but I finished re-writing this in San Diego, and want to post it.I am notoriously bad about talking about what I want from sex while in fact having sex. Now, this is far from inclusive, and there are many things I will miss, and some things that I say I don’t like that in the right circumstances I happen to. There are also things that I will say that I love that there are just times and places I’m not interested in. But consider this a jump-off point. Somewhere to begin. A bit about my body, my sex life, and what I am often looking for in a good shag.My STD/Safer sex rules:Because I play with a number of different people, these are the generic rules my partner Furry and I have outside of our partnership--Condoms for all cocks in vaginas or anuses.-Oral sex giving only if I have had discussion on STDs with you.-Oral sex receiving see above. I don’t do this too often, but in the past few years have come to enjoy it more than I used to in the past.-Hand jobs male or female giving or receiving good, unless cuts on hands, in which case gloves are your friends anyways-Kissing okay-Blood play- clean new equipment each time.Blow Jobs:I enjoy giving them. It’s not just a oh I guess I will if you want me to, I actually enjoy giving them. If you smell decent. I don’t have a thing against sweat- but skank bothers me. Boys and girls. Blowjobs is my generic term for oral sex as a whole. I can spend hours sucking cock or clit, if wanted from my partner, as either foreplay or as a course unto itself… hell, I don’t need to cum all the time (except when I do :)). But if you smell like you haven’t bathed recently, or worse, if you smell like you fucked someone else who I don’t know the STD status of, sorry no. There are some exceptions to this, for exampe during 3-somes, or humiliation play where I know all parties involved… but they are the exception. A good rule of thumb is to wash between partners, thanks.I have a lot of folks who want to go down on me. In the past I have been VERY ticklish on my clit, and from time to time, I still am. It’s an interesting adventure exploring this all again now that my triangle piercing was done. I’ve found that touching to the sides of the clit, especially above the clit, so pressure hits the shaft but not the head, is nice. Flicking the ring with your tongue is fun, but won’t really make me cum. Please don’t even threaten to rip the ring out, I will react badly. I’ve found that keeping good rythem is very important- doing the whole erradic thing just throws me off. Good combo is to stick a lubed gloved finger or two, or dildo, up my ass as you’re eating me out. Or, work at a steady rythem for a long time, then as I build up, let me control the pressure or vibration by letting my hands and hips help you. I am pretty good at making me cum, let me help you. Or, go the other route and tie me down, esp, with something in my ass, and work on me constantly. Just accept that I may not cum… it’s part of life. A good way to tell if I am getting close to cumming is if I hold my breath for extended periods or in mt ass/thighs are super-tense. I may ask to take over with my hands- watch me, I make cool faces :) Or deny me- but I don’t react to this well over extended periods except from rare people. I find that vocalists are better at getting me to cum from eating me out.From slow sucking to hard cocks rammed down my throat… yum! But if I need to breathe, unless we have something else arranged, please let me breathe on occasion? 69s can be fun, and I enjoy queening (vaginal and anal) as a form of breath play.Boobs:Yes, I have them. No, I can’t cum from just having my nipples played with, though in the last few years have gotten close a few times due to a few people. As a whole though, my nipples and breasts are not primary erogenous zones. Yes, they look nice. Yes, you can touch them if you want to, but understand its not my primary kink.I have found that soft, repetitive squeezing is nice, and that I'm not a big fan of hard pinching on them when folks are trying for a sensual response. Grabbing or biting them lightly at the base and slowly dragging/pulling up, esp when repeated lightly at a set beat then building up works very nice. Hard squeezing is good if we’re going for a pain or heavy grunty sex thing. Sometimes however my ynipple rings get infected- if they are, please do not hurt my nipples.The nipple play combined with oral sex or pussy fucking can be good. For a while my nipples were being overly-reactive, but they seem to have settled to an acceptable working level part of the time, and non-reactive others.I sometimes enjoy having my boobs tortured (especially boob bondage, caning, and needle play). I sometimes enjoy sensual massage all over my body, and my breasts are part of my body. If I am in male mode please don’t play with my boobs as boobs, it just throws me out of head space. Please don’t grab my nipple piercings and randomly pull on them. Please don’t try to bite my nipples off.In reverse, I like boobs. I prefer pecs, as men’s chests are very sexy. But big boobs can be fun to play with. Small boobs are okay too… but at the end of the day I don’t care much about boobs- I’m a hips/ass person. They look cool in porn, and in real life, but yeah, hips…Massage:I don’t much enjoy massage as for-play as a receiver. Giver- sure! The problem with getting massages is that I have serious spinal issues, and tension/pain problems, so I want REAL massage and don’t get enough of it. If you start massaging me you’d better be there for at least 30 minutes, preferably 2 hours. It’s not a casual handshake for me. I don’t like 1 minute rubs from friends. I want serious massage. I want massage that hurts so bad that it actually gets knots out. 1 minute massages make me more tense than I began.Now, being massaged hard by one person and fucked by another… YUM!Hair:I shaved my head. It’s harder to do hair pulling on me now. I also shaved my bush as part of that process. I have decided that head and pussy shaving can be very sensual or sexual for me. Plucking is hot torture, but bad for sensual play. My scalp is sensitive- scratching it is not that good or sexy usually… sometimes, but not usually. I feel odd about the fact that I have no pussy hair because I liked my bush- but it looks funny to be bald on top and not on the bottom. I shave my armpits, and usually my legs too. When my head is smooth I find I like the sensation of bodies on my head (hands, boobs, cocks), enjoy cum dripping down my head when bottoming, and have discovered a love of head waxing and rope bondage on the scalp.I aesthetically enjoy pubic hair. Especially when it is sudsy. I ADORE hairy men. I dislike the look of plus-sized women with no pubic hair for the most part. Smaller women and men with no pubic hair is okay. I ADORE beards. I’m into armpit hair smelling on yummy smelling people. I don’t like sniffing old clumpy deodorant.Weight:I adore having weight on me. Being smothered by large people is sexy. I adore men with bellies or women with bellies with cocks because when I ride on top of them I get fucked and have my clit hit at the same time. I enjoy both bellies and muscles. I enjoy strength. I enjoy being pinned down. I enjoy being held down. I enjoy being forced down. I enjoy barely being able to wrap my big arms around someone- feeling small for a moment. I have a fear of sex with people whose bones I can see because I’m afraid I’ll break them or be bruised by them (it’s happened).Cocks:Though a size queen with dildoes, my tastes vary with flesh-cocks. The bad thing about big cocks is that they have often been attached to skinny white men, who I am not turned on by aesthetically. Big dicks are good for fucking me from behind with, or from above as I lay on my back, but hard to ride on top of. I love a huge dick in my ass, pounding me til I run out of screams.Baby-medium dicks are hot on big guys, because I can have it in my cunt and ride on top til I cum a lot- they hit my g-spot perfectly. Medium sized dicks are the best to suck on- enough for a mouth-full and easily deep-throat, but not enough to gag me. Not that gagging is bad :)I have more practice with cut cocks, but I like the sensation of un-cut too. Variety is good. I enjoy hurting dicks if my partner likes that sort of thing, or worshipping them. Ball-licking is fun. I have multiple fantasies involving groups of cocks… ummm… gang bangs and bukkake… but have had little chance to make them happen.Race:I aesthetically prefer black and Latino men more then white and asian guys-but have more history and experience (and larger play pool) with category #2. But I like bears a lot, so furry white guys are good. Speaking Russian or French is a plus. No, I don’t speak Russian, but I am working on French, I just have a thing about spy games and artists. I like women with hips, so big-butted white and black girls tend to be my faves aesthetically, though I enjoy asian women tied up and being fucked… Little hipped folks are okay, and I will forgive you if you forgive me my physical lacks.I like good teeth.Vaginal intercourse:My favourite positions include- (*s are top)Standard MissionaryMissionary with my ankles back towards my head*Missionary with my feet being massaged/hurt/sucked on*Laying on my side with my leg up in the air over a lover’s shoulderDoggie style on hands and knees*Knees down, ass up, face and chest buried on bed/floorCurled up on one side or another with lover on kneesSpooning intercourse while falling asleepMe on top on my knees facing partner only if temporary or if man is big (I have bad knees)*ANYTHING WHERE I GET PICKED UP IN THE AIR BY BRUTE FORCE*Me in sling or tall bed, legs wrapped around standing lover or fist buried in deepBent over (especially in shower with suds! Or in public)No (so) keen on-On top facing away (any variation)Laying flat on back with partner flat on top (unless man is very big or some other sort of play involved)Me on top with my legs out flat, facing towards or away from partnerYes, I can ejaculate. No, I don’t have to. No, I can’t always. Yes, I know how to force myself to. No, I don’t always want to. The pose with one leg up usually works best, or being hand-fucked or dildo fucked with the tip pointed up and to my left usually does it. But I really just like being fucked HARD. Not much into the twirling around of cocks, or of hands. I like in and out… or in the case of fisting, working up slow, then either fit-fucking fully, or moving back and forth slightly with a fist (or small foot, or big dildo) in my cunt while I masturbate on my clit. Yes, I have strong kegel muscles.I have found that with my piercing, if I am standing spread-eagled, I can be slapped up onto my cunt from below and can ejaculate without penetration sometimes.Anal Intercourse:I adore Anal sex. Prefer it to Vaginal oftentimes. My favourite way to cum is to have something up my bum, them masturbate the top right side of my clit. I enjoy fucking other people in the ass. I like lube. I like gloves and condoms. I enjoy dildoes. One of the best fucks I ever had was a fist buried in my cunt, and their big dick in my ass.I like being built up slowly, and fucked in and out. I want a fist in my ass but as of writing this have never *quite* made it work. I enjoy rimming and being rimmed. I prefer clean and/or sweaty asses. No poo thank you. I enjoy having an enema ahead of time sometimes, but spontaneous anal sex is happy too as long as no one dwells on minor messes (clean it up and move on, thanks). I enjoy many of the same poses listed for vaginal sex for my anal sex.I’m not a huge fan of butt plugs or beads, but they’re okay. I prefer hands and dicks (real or artificial). I prefer in and out and small staionary movements to rotational movements. I enjoy anal vibrators. Yes, I can cum from anal sex.Vibrators:Orgasms from vibrators are very different, and feel mechanical. That’s not bad, it’s just true. I love giant vibrators on my feet. I love those bunny vibrator things with the dick that stays still (they move, but I prefer them still) and the vibrator above my clit, or just below it. I’ve found that I LOVE huge foot vibrator massage things, and can almost cum from being forced to stay on one. I like Sybians, but end up hurting myself on them due to force. I enjoy hitachis, or similar large vibrators, and can cum even through multiple layers of clothing using one if I can have a good rythem established. I prefer clit vibrators and anal vibrators to anything in my cunt on oon my boobs.Rope bondage:I actually dislike crotch ropes. But love being tied up and fucked more than I can possibly describe.On Being a boy/Man:I identify male… but identify female as well. But if I am male with you, please respect that during sex. Don’t play with my boobs as boobs (but holding down my pecs is hot). If you fuck my cunt, don’t call it a cunt/slit/whatever. I’d prefer it if you let me give you blow jobs, had you go down on my cock (artificial, real or psychic), or fucked me up the ass (or if you are fucking my cunt, don’t dwell on talking about it). Grab my ass, thighs, pecs, shoulders. Kiss me hard, or soft. Fuck me or make love to me. Use me, abuse me, or let me love you fully. Don’t remind me of my body constantly.Verbal Me:I have a tendency of either being very loud, or silent. There is very little in between. I prefer being vocal. That tends to be more grunting, moaning, screaming, or other animalistic noises. If I am talking, I’m not enjoying myself as much as I could in many cases, but not all (unless we are weaving naughty stories back and forth, in which case, make sure your storyteller skills keep up with mine).Talking dirty only turns me on if I believe you. And then it REALLY turns me on.Use verbal cues or auditory cues if you want me become other rolls… it can work well.Other Rolls:Include at times:Me FemaleMe Male (Brian)- I usually identify as a Gay male, and play with very few women as a man.. few, but not noneBoyGirlPuppyBeast/DemonPonyRobot/Android/SexBotPriestessClownWhore (m or f, sacred or secular, high priced or cheap)AlienWormAnd more.Group sex:Group sex can be good if I am involved when play begins. If I get tossed in after chaos has begun, I tend to hate to interrupt unless someone in the active group pulls me in, but even that feels wierd. I want to do more group play, but never join in at swingers clubs due to the fact that they all want to go down on me or have me go down on them with no wash-up at all (fuck, at least have the politeness to wipe that girl’s cum off your torso or chin) or the fact that I don’t join in once things have started very well. I also have serious issues with the STD conciousness of a lot of gang-bangers.I want to be gang-banged. Technically I have had this cherry popped as there were 5 people in the room, but only 3 fucked me, and there was no real train of any sort. But have to have someone else set it up- I desperately want to be blindfolded and be used by throngs of people. I want to not know who they are. I want to be the jaw at a glory hole… but my safer sex rules sometimes cause issue with ideas like that. It’s a reason I always wanted to do a video of that type- if everyone were AIM certified, I’d blow them all…I love the feel of cum on my body at the height of passion, and would love to feel a group of folks cum on me.Other kinks:Please, let’s mix and match!BondageFur (I love fucking in furs, and really want a big mink coat down to the ground)LatexEncasement/SpandexLeatherCorsetryPainCigarsBootsHeelsFoot worshipPiercing/BloodBladesFear playBreath Play (see asphyxia below)Gender bendingWeaponsObjectional (see Furry or me for details)Why stop there….?Asphyxia:I hold my breath right before I cum. In fact, if I want to force myself to orgasm I hold my breath tense up my toes, then calves, then thighs, then ass... and it forces a shock wave up my body if timed right. Thus, it seems only natural that sexual asphyxia would be a turn-on. It has to be done at the right times, but it certainly is a big turn on. I also enjoy aphyxia as a Top. Everything from strangulation to chest pressure to water play to…That’s a bit about me and my sex life, thank you for reading v2.0… so, ask away.I am much better answering questions in an infomercial setting then in the bedroom… so if you want to fuck me, or hell, are just curious, this is your time to ask me about my tastes!Feel free to search for v1.0, 1.1 and 1.2 (all in one entry I think) back in the journals… but this is the new one as of the moment.