Dear Confused,

Today, a random stranger contacted me on facebook, and had questions about trans stuff... but they went it about it the wrong way I'd say.  With a loving hand, I tried to educate them a bit.  I am a firm believer in activism through accessibility, so if I have the time/energy to help someone learn when they have questions, I do.  Their ignorance is not about me, nor is their bluntness/rudeness.  Only I have the power to be offended or in pain- other people can only do that "to" me with my support of that belief.

This person was well intentioned, if a tad assumptive.  Enjoy our dialogue :)

so do you use the men's room?yes- women would be startled if I walked into the ladies room with my flat chest, full beard, etcwell you can't blame me for asking :):)well, actually, asking a near stranger about their bathroom practices, before saying hello and sharing about each other, is actually not a social normso sorry, i've just never talked to a ftm beforethen lets start as human to humanhimy name is Leehi my name is ****** :):)now, thats a much more civilized start to a conversationno matter what someones gender and history is, being nice before being intrusive is always a good way to go I sayi realize that, i just got excitedhooray excitementso yeah, unlike a lot of ftm folk, or transguys, or men with a female history (all terms that get used), I am incredibly open about my stuff- so if you have questions, feel free to ask.mind you, I'll answer only when I have energy/timeokay :):)...you are attracted to both sexes?which are you more attracted to?I am attracted to people. I tend to have more sex with men than women, but that was the case when I was female too. My primary partner is gender queer and identifies as "both".i see :):)as a male do you stand up when u pee?its funny, I had that question when I was going to transitionso I was out at dinner with a group of male friendsand asked them what their thoughts on urinals wereof the 8 guys there, 3 said they hated using themone was a big guy- his anatomy did not lay out well for themone had piercingsand one was pee shyso if 3/8 born-men don't use themI decided "why should I"?so though I pee standing in the shower at home sometimes- when out, I just use the stall, like a lot of other guyssitting downyes, sitting down when in stalls in publiclike 3/8 of my friends :):)well im learning a lot :):)every transguy is differentjust like every other guy is differentsome guys pee standing, others sitting, others standing in stalls, others... it varriesnow with women,how do you do it, with not quite the "other equipment"?ha ha haokay, so first, understand that sex between any two humans comes in thousands of arrangementspenis into vagina, penis in hand, in ass, in mouth, under armpits, using toyscunt to mouth, to toy, to vibrator, to hand, to inserted fingers, to inserted handass to mouth, dildosfrottage (genital to genital rubbing)bdsm/bondage/whips and chains and morefolks who get off entirely hands free with dirty talk or breathing techniquesthose who enjoy urethral playthose who are turned on by being fully clothed and kissingso asking that infers that you think sex requires a penis entering a vaginais that so?not really :):)so then, sex between two people works however those 2 people fit together bestwhich can involve any or all of the aboveor the use of props, prosthetics, blindfolds, and morethe same applies for me with menor with transfolkits all about how we, as two people, have the hottest sex the two of us together will havewell thanks for your time :):)happy to oblige :)