Dear Lee: See and be SEEN

Today a shaman wrote me, their own struggles painfully reflected in mine.  The difference was that my tribe had stepped up to feed me, and theirs had not. My fingers spoke back. I hear your feeling of isolation, disconnect and uncertainty around support.  For a long time, I felt very similar… though the feeling of separation will likely exist for all of life because as spirit workers we walk between.  We sit at the edge of the tribe, out in the wilderness, and walk the way in and out of the worlds. However, what I have found is that there…

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Let the Lines Run Deep

Epiphany can be intoxicating.  It can feel like an aha, strike on high from the Gods, a lightbulb being turned on and shining light into the shadows of a fearful existence.  Wake me up, slap across the face… but what do you do about it in the morning? Time and time again I see individuals, myself included, have these amazing moments… and then do little with them.  Catharsis junkies attending the same shamanism or tantra 101 weekend year after year, having the same realization about their intrinsic sacred value, only to come back the next year to “wake up” again…

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Listening to my Exhaustion

Our bodies have profound wisdom. This skin suit we have is so full of information, capacity, knowledge… it picks up things we could never hear, never see.  It understands things our conscious mind is never aware of.  I am blessed by my body, blessed for my body. And yet, how often have I not listened? I work contract projects.  I get hired to come in, do a thing, and leave.  And yet, to teach that class, run that ritual, facilitate that discussion, drive that intensive… there is hours, days, weeks or even months of work in advance.  A 2 hour…

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Mental Health and Sacred Kink

This morning I got an email asking why I singled out folk with mental illness as something to “watch out for,” when it comes to working with Sacred Kink, in my book “Sacred Kink: The Eightfold Paths of BDSM and Beyond.”  I speed-responded to the individual, then went back to the manuscript and made sure I was citing myself properly. They meant the following segment However, not everyone heeds that call. Some individuals get so caught up in what they are doing that their connection with a partner in a Sacred Kink arrangement can go from being mutually beneficial for…

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I Consent To The Journey

Those words keep echoing in my head tonight. “I consent to the journey.” Today I interviewed Mollena, Dan and dawn for my podcast.  The conversation topic was consent, and the journey rambled from place to place, story to story, feeling to word to deed.  It was funny and sad and delicious… as it needed to be. At the end of the podcast, Dan asked what would happen if he went to Raven, gave him a deer skin pouch, and said “take me on a journey.”  Take me where spirit leads you.  Would he be okay if Raven fucked him up…

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Not a Feri Priest/ess

For the past few days I have been following a discussion thread about what it does and does not mean to be a Feri Priest.  It led me to this lovely post about what it means to be a Priest, Priestess, Shaman, and more… a great read. The debate came up as to whether a God-slave could ever be a Feri Priest/ess, as Feri beliefs state that our primary Deity, above the Star Goddess, the Twins, the Guardians… is God Herself.  Is the God within.  Is the God, the Deity, the being that we each are inside and in the…

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Bonus April Podcast: Zen, Bondage and Authenticity with JD

In this bonus podcast, I find myself in San Francisco interviewing JD on zen, bondage, philosophy for authenticity, and the intersections on kink, sex, passion, and eastern philosophy. Even with extra Alan Watts! http://eroticawakening.com/files/ea114.php JD is member of the internationally renowned bondage duo Two Knotty Boys. He is the producer of over 300 knot and rope bondage instructional videos, and is the coauthor of two popular rope bondage guidebooks, “Two Knotty Boys Showing You the Ropes” (2006) and “Two Knotty Boys Back on the Ropes” (2009). Aside from his work as an educator and promoter of the rope arts, he…

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The Mirror of Their Eyes

Aiden, my delicious and delightful human Property, my Boy, my Treasure… they just texted me.  Now, for those who know me, you should know that this is not a new thing.  Last month we crashed my phone having not cleared out the over 5000 messages he and I had sent back and forth in under 4 months.  When systems say “unlimited text messages,” we take them up on the offer. “She [a friend at University]can’t make it [to our Ownership ceremony] but was asking questions about D/s and I was faltering at explaining it well enough to her. [cut] What…

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