Yule Blessings, Protocols, and Fetishes

Hello beautiful beings,

Monday will be Yule, the darkest night of the year. I find myself thinking back to when I lived in Anchorage, Alaska, when on the 21st of December there would only be light from 10:30am-3pm. You go to bed in the dark, wake in the dark. You build a habit of sleeping with a mask on so that whether it was the depth of wither or the height of summer where the night is that same short length, you can still get shut-eye and trust that your clock knew the time better than your body does.

The winter is a place of slumber. Snow lays at your feet, or in the case of being here in Austin, tonight there thunderstorms. Either way the story is the same – stay inside for the night, tell stories, stay where it is warm. Gifts are given to loved ones to say you have been thought of, and today I feel blessed for having received home-made biscotti from a friend who shows the love language of food from 2,000 miles away. Packages are wrapped up ready for the House Haven Christmas gathering, green and white shapes set aside to say “I thought of you,” “I care,” “I hope you think of me when you enjoy these.”

Thinking of receiving things, this past Weekly Wednesday discussion on Sacred Ropes, I realized I had not had a chance to upload my notes in advance. Thus, I am sharing them with you here whether you were there or not 🙂 If you love them and want to say thanks, consider joining us over on Patreon where I share free resources every week. 

Blessed journeys to all of us through this darkest of nights. From miles away we think of loved ones, family flickering on computer screens or held in memory for those no longer with us. We remember 300,000 Americans who were with us last Yule and Christmas who were with us last year, and give such gratitude for those who are with us at our sides, or safely locked in their own homes. May each of us stay warm, stay sheltered, stay safe. May we all pull through the dark times we are in and emerge into the light through the turning of the seasons.

This week, come join me at: 

  • Sir! Yes, Sir! Exploring Protocols in Power Dynamics
    With Wicked Grounds
    December 19th, 2020 (2-4p Pacific, 4-6p Central, 5-7p Eastern)
    Purchase Tickets: https://www.brownpapertickets.com/event/4829902 
    Share on Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/events/843256669829726/ 
    Share on Fetlife: https://fetlife.com/events/951550  
    Everyone in the Dominant/Submissive and Master/Slave community seems to talk about protocol, but what is it exactly? Where does the line between common sense or etiquette stop, and protocol begin? We will look at what Protocol is in a power exchange context, delve into terminology, and then examine formats of commonly recognized protocol systems and how these things develop in individual relationships and group dynamics. How does protocol change from public interactions to existing 24/7 in private dynamics? Let’s look into how to further develop our chosen dynamics, implement them consistently, and discuss the difference between enforcing protocol and punishment techniques. These concepts do NOT just apply to M/s and D/s dynamics  from active listening to self-sabotage, this class will touch on communication and lifestyle skills for all types of relationships.
  • What’s Your Fetish? An Online Discussion
    December 23rd, 2020 (1-330p Pacific, 3-430p Central, 4-30p Eastern)
    Share on Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/events/195061562220784  
    Share on Fetlife:  https://fetlife.com/events/955699 
    Join Zoom Meeting: https://us02web.zoom.us/j/2439294154?pwd=ZGFhRWVaTjVhK1ZpZmthU0JrWmZFZz09 
    Meeting ID: 243 929 4154
    Passcode: 136777love 
    Find your local number: https://us02web.zoom.us/u/kcvmiz5cpX
    Powerful erotic draws and tools of sexual arousal, fetishes are often mentioned offhandedly in the world of kink and BDSM, but what is a fetish really? Where do ours come from, and what about our specific fetishes call to us? Whether you have a fetish for specific objects, materials, situations, or body part, this is your chance to talk about yours, while those curious about fetishes can come learn more about both the theories around fetishes and the people who have them alike.

I also have other classes and events coming up in the next few weeks that you may be interested in:

To check out other classes and intensives, visit my Upcoming Appearances page to learn more. From there you can sign up for my free newsletter as well. To enjoy further free material from me, consider joining  me over on Patreon 🙂

Much love to you all and see you soon!

Yours in Passion and Soul,

Lee Harrington



Lee Harrington

Lee Harrington is an internationally known sexuality, relationships, and personal authenticity educator. Having taught in all 50 states and in 6 countries, he brings a combination of playful engagement and thoughtful academic dialogue to a broad audience. An award-winning author and editor on gender, sexual, and sacred experience, his books include “Traversing Gender: Understanding Transgender Journeys,” and "Sacred Kink: The Eightfold Paths of BDSM and Beyond," among many other titles. He has been blogging online since 1998, and been teaching worldwide since 2001. Welcome to his world, and your chance to expand your mind and heart alike.

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