Problematic Artists, Community Volunteers, and Queer Play

Hello beautiful beings,

Today I am feeling such gratitude for students, friends, and clients who understand that my health is a complex issue. Plans for sessions, classes, and play time sadly get usurped for 14 hours in bed and medications cutting only so much into migraines, and having profound thanks that my massage therapist can  see me tomorrow to get my back in working order after that much sleep. I have been having such appreciation as well for teachers like Jade T. Perry stating on their public pages when they are unavailable due to their health realities because it is slowly giving me more courage to do the same. And I know some of you reading this dance with complex medical realities… perhaps me saying this out loud can pass the gift of talking out loud forward.

Unrelated to my medical realities, I wanted to let folks know that the TOOTH & TALON Shapeshifting Dance Party has been moved to the evening of June 26th instead of this Friday. This fundraiser for LGBTQ Freedom Fund will make the 26th an awesome day, because that afternoon will be the June Patreon-only class, while the May date will be the evening of May 20th. What are the topics? That is being voted on right now by patrons, and will be decided on Friday night, so cast your vote now!

In the meantime, with the dance party moved, consider coming instead to the Unabashed Queer Kink Party… Spring Edition! It is literally the best online party I have ever been to, and is up there on the list with parties in general. DJs, classes, social spaces, voyeurism and exhibitionism spaces, cruising, rituals, and I will be hosting the community conversation space. I’m excited about it, and if you are in the queer-spectrum (whatever that means to you), it is for you. 

I had someone forward me yet another article about how a well-known transgender person is against women who happen to be transgender should not be in women’s sports. I’m not available for this discussion at this time other than to say that just because someone is transgender does not mean they know about the complexities of transgender people, experience, or reality. However, it did bring to mind the rich conversation I got to be on a few months ago – “Sex/People: A Sex Talk Roundtable with The Mystery Box Show, Allison Moon, Camille Salcedo, Reba Sparrow, and Lee Harrington.” The initial topic was about the question “Can you still like Harry Potter” because the author of this beloved series had come out as having toxic views on transgender people. It was a great two-hour panel discussion, and I encourage listening to the whole thing… but if you would prefer, feel free to enjoy four short segments from what we discussed: 

This coming week, come join me at: 

  • Encouraging Service & Volunteering In Kink, Leather, and Sexuality Communities
    May 5th, 2021 (1-330p Pacific, 2-330p Mountain, 3-430p Central, 4-30p Eastern, 8-930p GMT)
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    Meeting ID: 243 929 4154
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    Ever gone to kink events and it seems like it always the same three people doing all of the work? Or… maybe you are one of those three people? In this discussion we will examine the reasons people give service or volunteer in our communities, then dive into how we can encourage others to step up to the plate as well. How can we support and retain our volunteers that are already here while also helping new people join in as well? Let’s share our challenges, dive into our desires, and get creative to help our communities thrive.
    A $1-25 donation is encouraged for the Weekly Wednesday series, but none is required to attend.
  • Unabashed Queer Kink, Spring Edition
    May 8, 2021 (6-11p Pacific, 7p-Midnight Mountain, 8p-1a Central, 9p-2a Eastern)
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    After an invigorating debut in the middle of the pandemic, Unabashed is back for their sophomore Spring Edition. This will not be your typical virtual party. It is a queer, kinky, smashing good time featuring two classes, live DJs, rituals and performances, virtual play and exhibitionist spaces, cruising spaces, and I will be hosting the community conversation room again.

I am taking the week of May 9-14 off to officiate a friend’s wedding, and may not post a newsletter (and will NOT be hosting a class May 12th)… so here are two events for that weekend you should know about too!

  • Getting Spicy and Freaky: BDSM and Kink 101
    With The Society CT
    May 8, 2021 (5-630p Pacific, 6-730p Mountain, 7-830p Central, 8-930p Eastern)
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    Some people like blindfolds and whipped cream. Others enjoy pushing the boundaries of what their body can take. Whether you like intense sensations or more subtle flavors, everyone wins when they learn to explore and express their tastes. There are so many tastes out there – perhaps we will uncover some new ones for you to enjoy! Let’s look together at our tastes from mild to wild, creating scenes and play for the diverse connections we have in our sexual and kinky play.
  • Crotch Ropes and Butt Bondage
    With Wicked Grounds
    May 8, 2021 (2-4p Pacific, 3-5p Mountain, 4-6pCentral, 5-7p Eastern, 9-11p GMT)
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    Rope can be a wonderful tool for spicing up your sex life, and in todays class we will learn to apply crotch ropes for a variety of shapes and layouts of bodies. Join the author of Shibari You Can Use: Japanese Rope Bondage and Erotic Macramé as we then convert them into hand holds for penetrative sex, craft artfully done butt bondage, and finally learn to create our own strap-on harnesses out of rope. Bring one or two 25-30 foot pieces of rope, and a dildo if you have one, and come play along (whether you are doing self-bondage, are with a partner, or just want to watch).

I also have other classes and events coming up! Come join me for one of these upcoming events in the second half of May and June (and visit my Upcoming Appearances page for things later in the year). 

To check out other classes and intensives beyond April (conferences and classes alike), visit my Upcoming Appearances page to learn more. From there you can sign up for my free newsletter as well. To enjoy further free material from me, consider joining me on Patreon 🙂

Much love to you all and see you soon!

Yours in Passion and Soul,

Lee Harrington


Lee Harrington

Lee Harrington is an internationally known sexuality, relationships, and personal authenticity educator. Having taught in all 50 states and in 6 countries, he brings a combination of playful engagement and thoughtful academic dialogue to a broad audience. An award-winning author and editor on gender, sexual, and sacred experience, his books include “Traversing Gender: Understanding Transgender Journeys,” and "Sacred Kink: The Eightfold Paths of BDSM and Beyond," among many other titles. He has been blogging online since 1998, and been teaching worldwide since 2001. Welcome to his world, and your chance to expand your mind and heart alike.

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