Hello beautiful beings,
It was really hard for Ms. Cenna and I to have to cancel our appearance on Friday at the Virtual Intimacy Retreat, but my body was not up to it. However, we were able to talk with Dr. Hazel-Grace Yeats for half an hour about the topic (including am exercise from the class) in this podcast about Turning It Around: Switching Places in the Bedroom. For a general hour long discussion you can also check out Switching, Authenticity, and Emotional Fatigue we did with Reid Mahalko, Luckily my throat is mostly healed today so I will be appearing on the racism and consent on Sunday.
Before my throat completely swelled up, I was able to lead a class/discussion on destigmatizing STIs (sexually *and* socially transmitted illnesses) and wow, what an action packed time. If you only watch one thing on the topic, please watch Ella Dawson’s TEDx talk on herpes, stigma, and awareness. However, we covered a lot of ground from informed consent and awareness of risks, how expensive testing can be, not vilifying people’s choices, making our own decisions, and how sometimes doctors make choices for us.
I promised that I would share some of the resources we shared there for folks who could not make it… so here you go!
- STI Awareness at a Glance – https://smartsexresource.com/about-stis/types-stis
- Undetectable = Untransmittable for HIV – https://www.nih.gov/news-events/news-releases/science-clear-hiv-undetectable-equals-untransmittable
- NYC Department of Health gives thumbs up on glory holes and zoom orgies
- Midori “How Herpes Saved My Life” – https://www.patreon.com/posts/37477313
- Herpes Myths and Facts – https://fetlife.com/users/5273655/posts/5718058
- Sacred, Not Secret: An Integrated Approach to Sexual (R)Evolution by Christine Laplante
- Annual Mental Health and Power Exchange Panel – https://fetlife.com/events/922151
- Deborah Anapol Clarifies (on STD approaches) – http://passionandsoul.com/info/deborah-anapol-clarifies-2/
- Lorals disposable latex underwear for sex – https://mylorals.com
Whew! As you can see, it was *quite* the lively discussion, and we will be continuing the discussion that was being held about oral sex this Wednesday too 🙂
This week, come join me at:
- The Intersection of Consent and Whiteness – Panel
July 12, 2020 (2-4p Pacific, 4-6p Central, 5-7p Eastern)With The Consent Academy
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In this time, when we are all exploring our racial identity, it can be hard to know how to talk about things, or even what to say. It can be hard to figure out what we should and shouldn’t do. And it can feel overwhelming to figure it all out on your own. The Consent Academy (an educational collective based out of Seattle) has one answer to make things easier: consent. We believe using consent concepts as a base will help you better navigate racial interactions. Consent offers tools for a better way to communicate and treat people. Join our panelists for a 90 minute discussion on some of the difficulties around consent & race and how we, as white folks, can use consent to be better and stronger allies. Includes time at the end for Q&A.
- Approaches to Oral Sex
July 15, 2020 (1-2:30p Pacific, 3-4:30p Central, 4-5:30p Eastern)
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Deemed illegal or immoral in some cultures while seen as commonplace or a cultural norm in others, oral to genital stimulation is a tool for erotic expression that there has many techniques to explore. Whether you see it as “third base” or “the most intimate type of passion,” let us explore the double (or triple) standards based on gender and genital configuration (from diverse cisgender male and female to trans bodies), and the medical realities present in this sort of play. Each of us has favorite skills and approaches too, so we will share descriptions of skills with each other (no live demonstration or nudity during the discussion), talk about diverse anatomy and interests, and dive into our passions (and turn-offs) concerning this sort of sexual activity.
- Power Exchange, Power Dynamics: Conscious Inequality, Dominance, and Submission
July 19, 2020 (6-8pm Pacific, 8-10p Central, 9-11p Eastern)
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When most people outside of the BDSM community talk about Age Play, images like adults in diapers tend to turn a lot of folks off (even if that can be fun). But Age Play for consenting adults can be SO much more! We will explore personal, cultural, and universal archetypes of parenthood, childhood, and all kinds of kidhood and adultdom to find a voice for our own diverse desires from naughty teenage girlz (who says kidz are bottoms?) to packs of boy scoutz. Let’s look at pre-verbal, toddler, school kid, teen, and a wide variety of adult roles that we can enjoy for roleplaying or lifestyle identities. Daddies, Mommies, other familial roles will be explored, as well as how to incorporate age play into your other kinks, while we also touch on the land mines of our pasts and helping kidz and adultz who have been emotionally hurt by past kink relationships.
To check out other classes I have coming up in July and beyond (including another date for Power Exchange, Power Dynamics on July 28th), visit my Upcoming Appearances page to learn more… including multiple courses with Wicked Grounds to be announced soon. From there you can sign up for my free newsletter as well. To enjoy further free material from me, consider joining me over on Patreon as well 🙂
Much love to you all and see you soon!