Accessing Kink: BDSM and Disabilities

Hello beautiful beings,

Being a being with often invisible disabilities can be frustrating on a number of levels. Not being able to sit on a zoom call because my hips are being problematic affects the schedules of others. Having problems walking because of intense vertigo limits where I can go. Having my mood disorder affect my upbeat way I try to approach the world can be frustrating. But people, unless you live in the skins of people whose bodies and minds do not do what other bodies and minds can do affect our sexuality too. When my hands are tremmoring it affects my ability to tie, while my circulation issues affects how I get tied. My vertebrae slipping in and out is disconcerting or debilitating in the middle of being fucked. In talking to one of my lovers, they framed it that much of what is deemed problematic when being sexual as a person with disabilities is that there is a perception of what “normal” sex or kink should look like. The idea that bodes can or should be able to participate in specific ways, and that there is judgement is you can not meet those assumed norms.  What would it look like if we didn’t have these assumptions? How would our collective sexual journey look if there was no fear or judgement in sharing where are bodies at at? That feeling of being seen mid-sex when a partner asks “what position would work better for us right now,” and made it not feel like an inconvenience. Feeling loved through the act of all of us thriving.  This coming week I will be leading my kink and disabilities class for Karada House. In the meantime, if you are interested in learning more about accessing kink when living with disabilities, you can explore the following free resources:

Additionally, Alfred Press sells several books on kink and disabilities.

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In the past few weeks over on Patreon, I have had a chance to connect with my Patrons regularly through:

  • The Patreon-only class, “Arcane Dominance and Submission.” I offered a live session and shared the PowerPoint from the class for all of my Patrons. I also shared a recording of the class for my Spirit-level patrons.
  • A series of Pride tarot spreads that give you the opportunity to explore the complexity of your gender identity, the things you deserve to be proud about and stand up for, and so much more.

For June and July, come join me LIVE at:

Sacred Kink: The Eightfold Paths of BDSM

Online Worldwide with Wicked Grounds Thursday, June 30, 6-8p PST (7-9p EST, 9-11p EST) Purchase Tickets: https://forbiddentickets.com/events/wicked-grounds/2022-06-30-online-sacred-kink-the-eightfold-paths-of-bds

In our sensual, sexual, kink, BDSM and fetish encounters, many of us enter into altered states of consciousness without being aware of it! Exploring the eight major routes of Sacred Kink, we will examine how we use the Path of Ritual for earning our leathers, Path of Rhythm for cathartic flogging, Path of Flesh for sensual bondage scenes and so much more. Come learn how to be conscious of your own sacred and magical connections, how these tools have been used for thousands of years, and begin incorporating new approaches to deepen your energetic connections.

Kink and Disabilities

Online Worldwide with Karada House Friday, July 1; 11-1p PST (12-2p MST, 2-4p EST, 8-10p CEST) Purchase Tickets: https://karada-house.de/events/disabilities/

Getting freaky, kinky, and exploring dominance or submission is desired by many people, and yet for those of us who live with physical, neurological, or mental disabilities we have unique realities in these explorations or play. Let’s talk about how having disabilities can affect how we do BDSM and other kinks! This might include visible or invisible disabilities, neurological non-normativity, realities that come from aging, plus blindness and visual impairment as well – how do you modify your explorations for your (or a partners) realities. Let’s talk about our challenges, brainstorm for each other, and also discuss the fun or creativity that have come up along our journeys!

Simplest Toybag: Creative Uses for One Piece of Rope

Online Worldwide with Wicked Grounds Wednesday, July 6, 6-8p PST (7-9p MST, 9-11p EST) Purchase Tickets: https://forbiddentickets.com/events/wicked-grounds/2022-07-06-online-simplest-toybag-creative-uses-for-one-piece-of-rope

Ever tire of hauling around tons of toys? Ever consider just grabbing a piece or two of rope, and calling that your toybag? Now you can. From leashes to improvised whips, nooses and garrotes to gags to blindfolds, instant vibrator to genital torture device, rope has so many more possibilities to be used in a scene. Bring one 15-30 foot piece of rope for playing along. It’s time to learn some new tricks for an old friend, your favorite piece of rope!

Desired Object, Forgotten Object: Erotic Objectification for Animists

Online Worldwide with Wicked Grounds Wednesday, July 20, 6-8p PST (7-9p MST, 9-11p EST) Purchase Tickets: https://forbiddentickets.com/events/wicked-grounds/2022-07-20-online-desired-object-forgotten-object-erotic-objectification-for-animists

In the erotically adventurous world, a lot of conversation has been batted about concerning the idea of objectification and its supposed partner humiliation. However, for those of us who believe objects have souls, things have value, and the earth itself is not something to be thrown away when we are done with it, how does this dynamic between human and human-object shift? Let’s discuss how our interactions with a human table change for those of us who look at tables as more than wood? Can we apply our desire to create lasting relationships with our human-objects to creating lasting relationships with the non-human-objects in our world as well? In a world where everything has a soul, we will look at whether humiliation has a place in the language of objectification and dive into our own ethics while examining our objects of desire.

I also have other classes and events coming in the next few months! I will be teaching about power exchange and rope, crotch rope and butt bondage, and more. You can see a few of my upcoming offerings below, and you can visit my Upcoming Appearances page to learn about the rest of my future offerings in the spring and beyond.

To check out all my further scheduled classes and intensives throughout the year (and more being added regularly), visit my Upcoming Appearances page to learn more. To enjoy further free material from me, consider joining me on Patreon where I share weekly resources, monthly classes, and more 🙂 Much love to you all and see you soon! Yours in Passion and Soul, Lee Harrington http://www.PassionAndSoul.com

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Lee Harrington

Lee Harrington is an internationally known sexuality, relationships, and personal authenticity educator. Having taught in all 50 states and in 6 countries, he brings a combination of playful engagement and thoughtful academic dialogue to a broad audience. An award-winning author and editor on gender, sexual, and sacred experience, his books include “Traversing Gender: Understanding Transgender Journeys,” and "Sacred Kink: The Eightfold Paths of BDSM and Beyond," among many other titles. He has been blogging online since 1998, and been teaching worldwide since 2001. Welcome to his world, and your chance to expand your mind and heart alike.

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