Service, D/s, Love Languages, Bondage… and Pears

Hello beautiful beings,

So many jars of pears! Only a fraction are shown here.

This week has been powerful for me concerning Spirit. Saturday was Lammas/Lughnasadh, the middle point between Summer Solstice and the Autumnal Equinox. My polyamorous family came together that day and processed over 60 pounds of pears. There were two types of pear butter T(orange/clove base and cinnamon base), pear/cranberry preserves, pear butter, dried pears, and halved pears all jarred up, with Ms. Cenna and I in the hot kitchen cooking and jarring while the rest of the team cut, peeled, and prepped as needed. The day is usually about appreciation of family and harvests, and what better way than to clear half the pear crop for future delight. It also led to uncovering past years jarring to see if any needed re-homing… I am now the proud owner of pear-lychee jam, peach preserves, and pumpkin puree that will either be made into bread or a curry base. This is the cycle of love and the cycle of life – kith and kin in the kitchen acknowledging our pasts and planning for the future all at once.

The rest of the week held conversations with spirit workers and altars erected for various deities. It held intimate chances to support friends and having mysteries of queer magic explored. I got to laugh out loud while teaching about some playful and really hard topics surrounding age play, from the silliness to the heartbreak, healing trauma to exploring our playful hearts. There were open sharing of teaching skills and resources for online from folks who came to the Wednesday daytime class series (the resource list from the discussion will be with next week’s newsletter), and then chances to discuss the complexities of abuse in non-monogamous relationships with a creative collaborator. Add in the guys at Austin Men in Rope having their first online gear/rope night (including very silly jeopardy games)… it was quite the adventure. 

Beautiful end-of-month Texas sunset

Last week I mentioned the “Embodied~Erotic: A Magickal Intensive” I am hosting with Meredith Muse July 29th-30th. We are down to only two tickets available, so this is your chance to attend a truly unique experience bringing more sensual magick and body wisdom into your life. Thinking of immersive experiences, the public registration opportunity for the September 11th-13th intensive is now open! We debuted the 3-day Delving Into Power online experience in July, and the intimate group together had an amazing time that is still buzzing for me. Whether you are in D/s or Authority Transfer relationships already, have a passion for power exchange, or want to dive deeper into your own identity with dominance, submission, or energy surrounding these things, this is your chance. Having opened up spaces first to people on Patreon and friends of first-round attendees, we have only 8 spaces left. You can learn more over here.

This week, come join me at: 

  • Love Languages for Alternative Sexuality Communities
    August 10, 2020 (1-2:30p Pacific, 3-4:30p Central, 4-5:30p Eastern)
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    When Dr. Gary Chapman introduced his book The Five Love Languages: How to Express Heartfelt Commitment to Your Mate, he came from the lens of being a Baptist pastor who practiced monogamy, and certainly didn’t look at the perspective of alternative sexual and relationship practices. In this class/discussion, we will look at adapting the love languages (words of affirmation, quality time, gifts, acts of service, physical touch) to these various relationship structures (whether friends, play partners/lovers, partners, life mates, or D/s dynamics). With touch, for example, someone might want a hug or a spanking! A gift could be roses or a collar. Ans what about if different partners have different love languages? Lets share from our hearts, our experiences, and look at some other tools for communicating care, affection, connection, appreciation, and love alike.
  • Crotch Ropes & Butt Bondage
    August 12, 2020 (1-2:30p Pacific, 3-4:30p Central, 4-5:30p Eastern)
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    Rope can be  a wonderful tool for spicing up your sex life, and in today’s class we will learn to apply crotch ropes for a variety of shapes and layouts of bodies. Join the author of “Shibari You Can Use: Japanese Rope Bondage and Erotic Macramé” as we then convert them into hand holds for penetrative sex, craft artfully done butt bondage, and finally learn to create our own strap-on harnesses out of rope. Bring one or two  25-30 foot pieces of rope, and a dildo if you have one, and come play along (whether you are doing self-bondage, are with a partner, or just want to watch).  
  • Service That Actually Serves Us: Giving and Receiving What WE Really Want
    With Wicked Grounds
    August 12, 2020 (6-8p Pacific, 7-9p Mountain, 8-10p Central, 9-11p Eastern)
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    Are you sick of being asked to scrub the toilet as if your partner expects you to cum each time you do it for them? Does having your Submissive shave their balls three times a day actually help you live a full and fulfilling life? Lets get down and dirty  talking about and working through exercises on establishing what service we really want, what we are able to give, and what drives us in service from all sides. Is it about effort, quality of outcome, detailed delivery, results, our resources expended or getting hard/wet? Service is not just provided by Slaves and Submissive or Surrendering individuals  Masters, Mistresses, Mommies, Daddies, Boys, Girls, Lovers, and Friends will also get a chance to look at their desires and see what actually gets them what they actually desire.

I also have other classes coming up this month that you may be interested in:

To check out other classes and intensives I have coming up in August and beyond, visit my Upcoming Appearancespage to learn more. From there you can sign up for my free newsletter as well. To enjoy further free material from me, consider joining me over on Patreon as well 🙂

Much love to you all and see you soon!

Yours in Passion and Soul,

Lee Harrington


Lee Harrington

Lee Harrington is an internationally known sexuality, relationships, and personal authenticity educator. Having taught in all 50 states and in 6 countries, he brings a combination of playful engagement and thoughtful academic dialogue to a broad audience. An award-winning author and editor on gender, sexual, and sacred experience, his books include “Traversing Gender: Understanding Transgender Journeys,” and "Sacred Kink: The Eightfold Paths of BDSM and Beyond," among many other titles. He has been blogging online since 1998, and been teaching worldwide since 2001. Welcome to his world, and your chance to expand your mind and heart alike.

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