Corn Fritters, Budget Strap-on and the 30 hour countdown

Another city, another hotel, another stack of books on the table to sell. Another dildo staring at me from beside a pile of pantyhose, two topless curvy women asking where they should stand… wait, what?

My life feels amazing, beautiful, curious and strange sometimes. Today I find myself in Columbus, Ohio having had the 8th Winter Wickedness hosted by AIS wrap up. I had the pleasure of teaching two classes, attending two myself, spending quality time with friends, making new ones, having conversations that needed to happen – and even had time to sneak off with local title holders to the local gay leather bar – eXile.

WICKED2014splashI am always delighted by quality producers. Anyone who can hear about temperature concerns in one room and have it handled in time to manage social interactions and then still, it seem, have fun… yeah, Barak and Sheba, the event hosts, are pretty darn amazing. I have known them for many years, and I am a better person for it. Barak has a profound strength of charachter and Sheba has a profound strength of will, and between the two it is a pretty amazing sight to behold. This year they and the AIS crew brought together over 600 attendees  in a sold-out hotel (with overflow hotel) for a fantastic lineup of education, a really well-appointed series of play spaces, three rooms of vendors… and food.

So, there was not group lunches or dinners. But the Saturday night, they brought in 120lbs of meat. I was impressed, if not myself interested. Barak had apparently attended an event 8 or 9 years ago on the east coast where a person in an all-white chef outfit served them meat… and Barak wanted to finally have it here. The chef was in blue, but the line was out the door. I sat to the side, watching the lineup begin – but midnight (when the food line was supposed to start moving) was when I was set to leave for the leather bar. Then, Barak walked by, and with a smile, checked in with our merry band. I asked if I could be a cheat and sneak in to grab a corn fritter before we left. He asked me what I really wanted. With sincere honesty I answered two corn fritters and a cheese puff.

With a smirk he went and got them, placing the hot food into his palm. He came over and fed me one bite of the cheese puff before starting to tease/take the food away. I, not to let that stop me from getting my corn fritters, got down on my knees. Feet touching my ass, knees well over shoulder width apart, back straight, eyes upcast, mouth open. Hungry, waiting. He balanced the corn fritter on my tongue and had me wait with it there, balancing. He said I could eat, but a moment later he wanted to hand me the next one. I personally had no interest in rushing through my corn fritter, so I stuck out my tongue again with the partially masticated golden sweetness still there. Balancing the second one atop was hard, and I did have a fear of gagging. But, here I am, well fed and having survived. We hugged huge, old bears of friends, and laughed at it all.

Just a few minutes in the social area. Life is beautiful, and event like this bring together such a diversity of beautiful. A round bodied woman covered in sharpie pen. A cute boy dressed like batman with a black tutu. Rockabilly fetish girls. White bearded men in dapper suits. A Princess in pink holding the keys to a crossdresser’s chastity device.

And this is my career. My extended tribe. My life. It’s pretty amazing.

My two classes were Sacred Kink and Clothing Bondage. Here us a snapshot technique from the second class:

How to build a strap-on harness on the cheap:

1. Buy (or acquire) two pairs of snug tighty-whities (or any color, but the fly-front men’s underwear, the classic style)

2. Put one pair on.

3. Take a dildo (with any sort of flange base), slide it underneath the underwear, and push the head and shaft of the dildo out through the place in the underpants where a cock would traditionally be pulled out to take a piss.

4. Snug into a comfortable position.

5. Put on the second pair of underwear.

6. Push the head and shaft of the dildo out through the flap area again.

7. Snug into place and get to playing.

The total of four layers of snug fabric framing the dildo hold it in place. If the underpants are destroyable, you can also take a pair of safety scissors and cut out a hole/area in back to have the person wearing the undie strap-on be… accessed.


s-bothcovers30+ hours left. I’m sitting in the hotel room, and I’m starting to do the fundraiser countdown. We have surpassed the ebook goal, but have a long way to go for the print goal. Luckily, talking to my printers, I’ll be able to have my print perks for contributors printed by the same company, at the same quality.

If people want these as print books, even just for their own bookshelves, please contribute to the Indiegogo Fundraiser for More Shibari You Can Use: Passionate Rope Bondage and Intimate Connection.

348 funders so far. Wow. Ebooks, print books, art prints, original works of art… and since we passed $20k, if you contribute at any level, you are being entered into a “completely unofficial not sanctioned by Indiegogo” raffle for art prints, books, event tickets, etc.

Please help me make this print project come true 🙂


Good friends, good projects… and tomorrow – San Francisco!

Join me in the bay area for:

  • Center for Sex and Culture – San Francisco, CA (February 11, 2014): Teaching Reclaiming Your Pleasure Rights: Exploring Sexuality for Trans* Folks and Their Lovers
  • Good Vibrations – San Francisco, CA (February 12, 2014): Teaching Playing Well With Others: A Kink Community Primer
  • PantheaCon – San Jose, CA (February 14-17, 2014): Teaching Fiber Magic and Safer Magical Sex

Thank you Columbus, thank you Winter Wickedness attendees, thank you corn fritters.


If so moved…



Lee Harrington

Lee Harrington is an internationally known sexuality, relationships, and personal authenticity educator. Having taught in all 50 states and in 6 countries, he brings a combination of playful engagement and thoughtful academic dialogue to a broad audience. An award-winning author and editor on gender, sexual, and sacred experience, his books include “Traversing Gender: Understanding Transgender Journeys,” and "Sacred Kink: The Eightfold Paths of BDSM and Beyond," among many other titles. He has been blogging online since 1998, and been teaching worldwide since 2001. Welcome to his world, and your chance to expand your mind and heart alike.

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