Going Under The Blade: Surgery Info

So, yesterday I met with my OB/GYN, the fantastic Dr. Steven Leband.  I am formally slated for a Total Abdominal Hysterectomy on Tuesday November 30th at 10:30am.  Check-in, at Banner Good Samaritan Medical Center in Phoenix, will be 2 hours prior.

Timing wise, I’m amused- this will be 2 days after my 31st birthday.  I told myself, and my mother, than due to family history of severe birth complications, that I would never try to have a first child after the age of 30.  Well, I’m keeping my word mom 😉  Actually, this surgery is family history related- I have both Ovarian Cysts and Uterine Fybroids, and those fybroids are both reoccurring and sometimes cancerous on my mother’s side.  Add my current drug regimen to the mix, and yeah, I choose to undergo a hysterectomy rather than deal with the high likelihood or re-occurrence, and my current pain level.

So, details!

I will be in the hospital at least until the afternoon of December 1st.  Latest release, late night December 2nd, unless there are complications.  I am bussing to my surgery (because I’m like that), but will be needing a ride home.

I have been asked to have someone stay with me the first 24hrs I am home, but I have been told that actual on-call humans is fine if no one wants to crash with me.

Once home, I will need physical assistance for the week or two after with heavy lifting, grocery shopping, laundry, etc.

Thus, I put a call out to my Phoenix region friends!

Sign up for shifts 🙂

I am seeking folks on the 1st and 2nd who can be potential drivers and check-in humans.

December 3-10, and 14, I would like a human (or group of humans) a day to swing by my place, visit, kick it with me, see if I need anything, maybe watch a film or chat, help me with laundry, do a bank run for me, whatever.

December 13 I would like a ride at 7:45am to my post-surgical doctors appointment.

My calendar is here:


As humans claim dates, I will add their names to those dates.  A ? on the name means its not confirmed, and I would prefer to have 2 groups/individuals visit a day than none.

So if you are game, let me know!

To my non-Phoenix friends:

Thank you all for your concern, love, and energy.

Please do *not* send Reiki healing energy, I am allergic/intolerant to that modality of energy work.

If you feel compelled to buy things, for my birthday or as healing recovery gifts, here is my Amazon wishlist:


or send donations via my paypal donation button (look to the left of the page here at PassionAndSoul.com)

If you want to help me make the world a better place, donate to one of these groups in my honor:

Please resist sending flowers to the hospital.  I adore flowers, and would love them at home… though it may be more effective financially to send money to a Phoenix friend of mine and have them bring them by… and give the money difference to one of the charities above.

Thank you ALL again for your fantastic support and love.  I appreciate it so much.


Lee Harrington

Lee Harrington is an internationally known sexuality, relationships, and personal authenticity educator. Having taught in all 50 states and in 6 countries, he brings a combination of playful engagement and thoughtful academic dialogue to a broad audience. An award-winning author and editor on gender, sexual, and sacred experience, his books include “Traversing Gender: Understanding Transgender Journeys,” and "Sacred Kink: The Eightfold Paths of BDSM and Beyond," among many other titles. He has been blogging online since 1998, and been teaching worldwide since 2001. Welcome to his world, and your chance to expand your mind and heart alike.


  1. Also- I apparently impressed my OB/GYN with the sheer list of stuff I came to my appointment with… so I offered to send the list to him- so I’m sharing in case other folks have hysterectomies and want my cheat-sheet:

    Dr. Leband,

    Thank you for taking the time to sit down and work with me through all my concerns.

    This is the link for HysterSisters, which I have found an interesting resource, if very lilac and sometimes fear-ridden:
    This article though, was worth the site for me- what do I take to the hospital: http://www.hystersisters.com/vb2/article_96849.htm
    and this one, on questions to ask at my pre-surgical consult: http://www.hystersisters.com/vb2/article_96847.htm

    My own list I brought today was (modified from above):

    What types of clothes should I wear/have (will pants be ok)
    What is the exact name of my surgery
    What is the peeing plan?
    How soon will I be able to eat solid food?
    Should I stop vitamins or garlic in advance?
    Should I upkeep my meds as normal? What about day-of surgery when no input into body?
    How long is the surgery?
    how long will I be in the hospital?
    how long will I be on bedrest?
    What is our plan for hormone replacement?
    What is our pain med plan?
    What is our infection med plan? What about allergy concerns?
    Do I need to buy my own tummy binder?
    what bowl/body prep will I need pre-surgery? Enema? Douche? other?
    How long will I be off work?
    When can I resume non-penetrative orgasms?
    When can I resume vaginal penetrative sex?
    What other supplies should I acquire?

    Also, this morning I posted the following blog entry, so friends could know how best to help me:

    Because I had a lot of folks asking… and creating a google calendar sign up for knowing when friends are coming to help, helps me. Booking commitments in advance, so I don’t have to be desparate for help… and letting them know that I may need just a friend to kick it with, or I may need errands run, etc.

    I hope this is helpful, and look forward to seeing you on November 30th.

    – (signed legal name)

  2. I can be there for you on Sunday, Dec 5th for as long as you need me.

  3. Happy Birthday, Lee! I wish you well on the upcoming surgery. Let me know if you are in nyc anytime soon, or if I can help in anyway post-surgery. (mine is Jan 7). Best, Kip

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