10 Things I Wish I’d Known as a Bondage Top

You know what? I had no idea what I was doing when I first started typing people up over 20 years ago. I didn’t know there were so many options, so many reasons to dive in, so many ways it could be excellent!

Along the way I have learned a lot of tips, tricks, and core concepts that have changed the way I explore consensual restrain, erotic ropework, and playing with partners… and here is a series of ten things I wish I had known as a bondage top!

  • 1. I Don’t Have To Like All Types Of Bondage
  • 2. One Tie Is Enough
  • 3. I Don’t Have To Be Rich
  • 4. Connection Counts
  • 5. I Need To Stretch… and PEE!
  • 6. I Can Safeword and Say “No”
  • 7. Encourage My Bottoms To Share Information
  • 8. Cutting Rope Does Not Make Me A Bad Top
  • 9. Need Aftercare Is Okay
  • 10. Get My Needs Met Is Important Too

But this video shares a lot of details of all of those. Enjoy!

Pass it on. And check out my newest book on rope bondage, “More Shibari You Can Use: Passionate Rope Bondage and Erotic Restraint” on Amazon (or directly from my publisher for signed and spiral bound copies) for more ideas, and the tools to help make bondage easy and connecting at the same time.

If so moved…

Lee Harrington

Lee Harrington is an internationally known sexuality, relationships, and personal authenticity educator. Having taught in all 50 states and in 6 countries, he brings a combination of playful engagement and thoughtful academic dialogue to a broad audience. An award-winning author and editor on gender, sexual, and sacred experience, his books include “Traversing Gender: Understanding Transgender Journeys,” and "Sacred Kink: The Eightfold Paths of BDSM and Beyond," among many other titles. He has been blogging online since 1998, and been teaching worldwide since 2001. Welcome to his world, and your chance to expand your mind and heart alike.

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