10 Things I Wish I’d Known As a Bondage Bottom

Bondage can be a lot of fun, an opportunity for deep connection, a tool for being artistic, and something that can tie us into our core self… or something else altogether. But you know what? I had no idea what I was doing when I first started getting tied up by other people over 20 years ago.

Along the way I have learned a lot of tips, tricks, and core concepts that have changed the way I explore consensual restrain, erotic ropework, and playing with partners as someone who gets bound… and here is a series of ten things I wish I had known as a bondage bottom!

  1. There Are Lots Of Types Of Bondage
  2. Flexibility Does Not Equal Fun
  3. I Don’t Have To Be A Porn Actor
  4. Stretching Can Be Sexy
  5. Body Health Matters… and PEE!
  6. I Can Say No
  7. Communicate In-Scene
  8. Don’t Tough It Out
  9. I Need To Learn My Body
  10. Tops Are Not Psychic
  11. Build Excellence For Next Time

But this video shares a lot of details of all of those. Enjoy!

Pass it on. And check out my newest book on rope bondage, “More Shibari You Can Use: Passionate Rope Bondage and Erotic Restraint” on Amazon (or directly from my publisher for signed and spiral bound copies) for more ideas, and the tools to help make bondage easy and connecting at the same time.

If so moved…

Lee Harrington

Lee Harrington is an internationally known sexuality, relationships, and personal authenticity educator. Having taught in all 50 states and in 6 countries, he brings a combination of playful engagement and thoughtful academic dialogue to a broad audience. An award-winning author and editor on gender, sexual, and sacred experience, his books include “Traversing Gender: Understanding Transgender Journeys,” and "Sacred Kink: The Eightfold Paths of BDSM and Beyond," among many other titles. He has been blogging online since 1998, and been teaching worldwide since 2001. Welcome to his world, and your chance to expand your mind and heart alike.

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