Identity, Gender, and Sex

Beings of Faith and Desire: Embracing, Balancing and Maintaining Our Spirituality as Erotic Individuals

Many of us are not just sexual explorers, kinksters, swingers, hedonists, power exchange practitioners, polyamorists or queer sex radicals.  We are people of faith, belief, and spirit.  We are Christian, Pagan, Jewish, Muslim, New Age, Hindu, Catholic, or follow many other spiritual systems and truths.  What struggles and unexpected joys have you found in finding the balance between your erotic identities and the truths of your connections to divinity?  Come discuss your hopes, fears, sorrows and joys amongst other individuals invested in or struggling with their respective beliefs as sexual beings.

Erotic Alchemy: An Introduction to Sex Magic

The world of sex magic is clouded in mystery, with images of shadowy covens and yogis who possess cults of scantily clad women filling the imagination. However, erotic energy working is simultaneously more complex — and much more accessible — than pop media might have us believe. Sexual contact and connection is a powerful tool to use in our sacred, sensual and spiritual lives. From the “Great Rite” to dedicated tools, the power of orgasm to the debates about polarity and resonance, we will examine a wide variety of topics surrounding the world and applications of erotic alchemy.  Join us as we examine and discuss raising sexual energy to create connection, manifest change in our lives, and affect the world at large.

Laughing Our Way to Intimacy: Humor and Sex

We’ve each had those moments — when the vibrator goes flying or the stereo goes off with just the wrong song, and suddenly sex has turned into hilarity. But looking beyond the accidents that make for funny stories later, how can we incorporate humor and comedy to purposefully add spice, connection, intimacy or variety to our bedroom (and other) erotic adventures? Exploring the different schools of comedy from absurdity and slapstick to satire, black comedy and dry observation, we will see how each can be included in our sexual escapades. Whether you are using humor to try something new, push a boundary, look back on past pain, or simply PLAY — this class is for you.

Let’s Talk About Sex: Frank Discussions around the Realities of our Desires

So here’s the truth: no one has the same type of sexual interactions or erotic expression as anyone else. Some people want to be penetrated, others eschew the idea. Some of us want to be touched certain ways, others don’t. Just because you’re gay doesn’t mean you enjoy anal play; just because you’re a lesbian doesn’t mean you like having your pussy licked. Every one of us is different. So let’s talk about it! In this discussion based class we will talk about what the hell sex is to us, what we call the stuff between our legs, and what we like to do with it when no one else is watching. Can it be touched? How can it be touched, and what are your thoughts around your body in general? What is safer sex, and how do you actually do it it when the passion is turned up to ten? How do you discuss this stuff with your partners, or do you expect psychic awareness or fumbling in the dark? Do you cum, how do you cum, and does it matter? Let’s air our dirty laundry and talk openly, honestly, and passionately about sex!

Our Intimate Selves: Examining Sex, Gender, Orientation, Intimacy, Relationships Styles and Sexual Behavior

When a baby is born, we lift them up and declare “it’s a boy” or “it’s a girl.” With one fell swoop a child’s gender identity, orientation, life experience, sexual behaviors and social interactions have been painted upon them… but we are more complex than that. In this class we will examine homosocial behavior, transgender issues, heterosexuality, chromosomes beyond xx/xy, and the cultures that affect our assumptions. From gender roles to prison sex, linguistic colonization to slut shaming, let’s look at humanity through a broader lens! Buckle up for a wild ride through the diversity of the human experience.

Reclaiming our Pleasure Rights: Exploring Sexuality for Trans* Folk and their Lovers

Let’s skip to the meat of the matter: we want sex, we have sex, and we deserve sex. But how can we reclaim our pleasure rights when we won’t even talk about it with our friends and lovers? In this class we will dive into the fears we have around rejection and body dysphoria, then put that all on a shelf for a few minutes to dive into what actually WORKS! How does humor and joy play into our pursuit of pleasure? What issues face trans* folks or others who are outside the binary who have male partners, female partners, trans* partners, and hell, what do you call the stuff between your legs anyway? Does it matter? We’ll touch on the issues of safer sex as well, in a community where our desperation to be touched the way we need to be touched has led to a heartbreaking habit of doing anything to get our needs met. Breathe deep, and get ready to listen from your heart and share from your spirit.

(Re)Thinking Gender

There are a lot of words out there for gender, sex and sexuality nowadays. Join us as we dive in to look at definitions, disclosure, desire, discussions to have, and how to explore this gumbo pot of identity and expression. The assumptions around gender need a lot of work. What are our sexual and gender myths and truths? What do we want to do with our bodies? And how do you play with folks who are going through these journeys? Because you know what? We are ALL on a gender journey. Let’s get analytical, let’s get sexy, and let’s open our hearts as we (re)think gender.

Sexy Safer Sex

Co-created with Aiden Harrington, RN
Ready to explore the world of infinite love and sex but want tips on how to do it safely? Already using safer sex practices, but looking for tips to have it be less stressful, more fun, and seemingly seamless? In this no-judgments class, we’ll discuss (and even try practicing with our clothes still on) how to make safer sex sexy, while sharing some of the health concerns that have us want to play in a safer way. We will expand our definitions of sex, reengineer the role that barriers play, and explore techniques and strategies to keep you and your partners healthy and happy – no matter what kinds of hot, steamy action you enjoy.

We Are Gender Fabulous: Femme Transmen, Butch Transwomen, and Other Gender Adventurers

Even within the trans communities, a story of binary gender norms can still occasionally be unconsciously enforced. If someone wants medical assistance in trans care, they are expected to want to become stereotypes of what women or men “should” be in society. But what about the rest of us? In this discussion we will have a chance to share our challenges as gender diverse beings beings beyond stringent Western culturally framed binaries. We will also help each other brainstorm ways to help make our own lives and those of other gender adventurers better. Allies of all sorts are welcome with an awareness that TGNC voices will be centered in this dialogue.

What Labels Give Us, What Labels Take Away: The Power of Gender and Sexual Identity Labels

Before many of us were born, we were given gender labels that set our life course in motion. In this discussion and personally explorative class, we will dive into looking at a variety of questions: What labels have you been gifted, inherited, chosen, been forced into, or run away from? How does your internal identity for yourself affect your outside identity and your interpretation of gender and sexual roles you play or fill? What power do your labels grant you for flirting, community exposure, personal interactions, group dynamics, and more? What do you lose by stating a specific label or expressing it physically at first meeting another individual? How are these labels formed, and why don’t we just scrap them all? Labels can get us hot, labels can turn us off, labels drive us mad, and labels give us hope for claiming our own sense of self. Let’s challenge ourselves, look deep inside, and examine how it all affects the current communities in which we are a part.

You’re Hot when You’re You

Co-taught with Nina Hartley
We’ve all been told on some level that what we are, who we are, or what we want is not normal. Is strange. Isn’t acceptable. Is wrong. But we are all broken, so what? Or more importantly, now what? Join Nina and Lee as they explore their journeys of gender, presentation, dominance and submission, sexuality and more that never had a box to fit into in the first place. From self-examination to self-acceptance to self-celebration, let’s look into what makes each of us truly sexy, truly hot, truly authentic… finding ourselves amidst the messages from our communities and beyond.

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