Trans Awareness and Sexual Health

Lee Harrington Face Trans Awareness Video

As part of a project in combination with Melissa Lewis for Spelman College and Aniz of Atlanta, it was my honor to produce this short video on transgender competency and issues awareness for their social work and sexual health programs. The topics focus towards providers of HIV education and sexual health, but my hope is that they may be helpful for trans people, their allies, and professionals who want to assist such communities. Spellman College is predominantly an African American focused women’s college, and thus topics specific to black and women’s issues are highlighted along with those of intersectional issues and…

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Sex, Gender, and Orientation – A Transcript

About a month ago I had the opportunity to do a week of hosting on Whips, Chains, & Duct Tape – a kink-themed Facebook Group, on the topics of kink and gender.  For the introductory video, I broke down the differences between sex, gender, and orientation. Following is the transcript from the video – enjoy! *** Hello, beautiful beings. My name is Lee Harrington and I am so excited to be her this week on Whips, Chains & Duct Tape. Thank you so much for having me on to talk about the conversation and to have this rich dialog around…

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Pick-up Play and Feeling Special

Human Vending Machine

Recently, someone wrote me about navigating pick-up play, and navigating whether the kink community could offer what they are looking for. That when we have what is called “pick-up play,” it can feel meaningless for some people if that person they played with barely remembers them afterwards. Pick-up play is where two (or more) people who are not in relationship with one another agree, often once already at an event or party. That person may be someone they just met, or someone they have talked with or even flirted with, or even a friend who they have never played with.…

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Passionate Allies: Evie Vane – How To Get Tied Up

I fell in love with the work of Evie Vane when she sent me a copy of her book The Little Guide to Getting Tied Up (and suspensions). Easy to read, frank, fun… I’d met her before but I smiled as I read her words and nodded my head in memory from when I learned a lot of the lessons myself. I’d tried to incorporate a number of the tools into my own bondage books, but she of course was able to take it further because it was a project focused entirely on bottoming. It tickled me to find out…

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The Art of Rope Bondage Modeling

From 2000 to 2007, it was my pleasure to spend time as a fetish, bondage and adult film model/actress. It took me on so many wild journeys from being spanked by a certain iconic mouse in Orlando to being a beautiful clown in Seattle, being a pony for Playboy TV in West Virginia to dangling from rooftops in Los Angeles. In Berlin I tormented beautiful boys, and in Sydney masturbated with iconic architecture behind me. While being adorned with ridiculously long nails I even learned that I can tie someone up wearing them, but I could not pull up my…

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Passionate Allies: Graydancer – Suspension Risk-Management (pt. 1)

For those of you who are long-time readers of this blog, you will know that I have rarely in the past done a full blog entry by a guest. I have interviewed allies, written about them, and once posted an email Deborah Anapol sent me about her concept of safer sex. However. when I read this blog entry by Graydancer (who you know I have had on my podcast a few different times), I just was nodding the whole time. Though I considered writing a rebuttal, I felt it was important to share the whole thing. In his graciousness, Graydancer…

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10 Things I Wish I’d Known as a Bondage Top

You know what? I had no idea what I was doing when I first started typing people up over 20 years ago. I didn’t know there were so many options, so many reasons to dive in, so many ways it could be excellent! Along the way I have learned a lot of tips, tricks, and core concepts that have changed the way I explore consensual restrain, erotic ropework, and playing with partners… and here is a series of ten things I wish I had known as a bondage top! 1. I Don’t Have To Like All Types Of Bondage 2.…

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10 Things I Wish I’d Known As a Bondage Bottom

Bondage can be a lot of fun, an opportunity for deep connection, a tool for being artistic, and something that can tie us into our core self… or something else altogether. But you know what? I had no idea what I was doing when I first started getting tied up by other people over 20 years ago. Along the way I have learned a lot of tips, tricks, and core concepts that have changed the way I explore consensual restrain, erotic ropework, and playing with partners as someone who gets bound… and here is a series of ten things I…

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A Transgender Primer

It’s a topic that has been on a lot of minds recently. With Caitlyn Jenner’s recent award on ESPN, Laverne Cox’s work on Orange is the New Black, Aydian Dowling’s placing for the Men’s Health Magazine cover, and Janet Mock’s activism and writing on transwomen, it’s hard not to have transgender issues at the forefront of a lot of minds. This week even the Anchorage Press ran a cover story on being transgender in Alaska (5th worst state to be so by the way – people can loose their housing, jobs and custody over being trans). Today, I was interviewed…

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Sacred Kink Books

Part of building the Sacred Kink Second Edition involves building a book resource section of course! Find below my list of Sacred Kink books! I’d also love to hear your favorite books in the following topics that have helped you in your spiritual, energetic, and connected pursuit of kink (or found that kink helped you with those topics and found good information/reflection in what was written about). The topics are: Sex and Kink Relationships (including D/s and polyamory) Tantra and Sex Magic Spirituality and Magic (if you have any that tie in from Islam, Christianity or Judaism, that would be…

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