Category: Resources & Passionate Allies

In my Weekly Wednesday series, on November 4th 2020 we dove into the topic of BDSM and Disabilities. From personal experience and life lessons learned, we talked about the experiences and creative approaches to diverse sexualities for people with various physical, neurological, or mental illnesses and disabilities. Getting freaky, kinky, and exploring dominance or submission is desired by many people, and people on such journeys have unique realities in these explorations or play. In this discussion we talked about how having disabilities can affect how we do BDSM and other kinks – This includes visible or invisible disabilities, neurological non-normativity,…

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As part of a project in combination with Melissa Lewis for Spelman College and Aniz of Atlanta, it was my honor to produce this short video on transgender competency and issues awareness for their social work and sexual health programs. The topics focus towards providers of HIV education and sexual health, but my hope is that they may be helpful for trans people, their allies, and professionals who want to assist such communities. Spellman College is predominantly an African American focused women’s college, and thus topics specific to black and women’s issues are highlighted along with those of intersectional issues and…

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About a month ago I had the opportunity to do a week of hosting on Whips, Chains, & Duct Tape – a kink-themed Facebook Group, on the topics of kink and gender.  For the introductory video, I broke down the differences between sex, gender, and orientation. Following is the transcript from the video – enjoy! *** Hello, beautiful beings. My name is Lee Harrington and I am so excited to be her this week on Whips, Chains & Duct Tape. Thank you so much for having me on to talk about the conversation and to have this rich dialog around…

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Recently, someone wrote me about navigating pick-up play, and navigating whether the kink community could offer what they are looking for. That when we have what is called “pick-up play,” it can feel meaningless for some people if that person they played with barely remembers them afterwards. Pick-up play is where two (or more) people who are not in relationship with one another agree, often once already at an event or party. That person may be someone they just met, or someone they have talked with or even flirted with, or even a friend who they have never played with.…

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I fell in love with the work of Evie Vane when she sent me a copy of her book The Little Guide to Getting Tied Up (and suspensions). Easy to read, frank, fun… I’d met her before but I smiled as I read her words and nodded my head in memory from when I learned a lot of the lessons myself. I’d tried to incorporate a number of the tools into my own bondage books, but she of course was able to take it further because it was a project focused entirely on bottoming. It tickled me to find out…

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From 2000 to 2007, it was my pleasure to spend time as a fetish, bondage and adult film model/actress. It took me on so many wild journeys from being spanked by a certain iconic mouse in Orlando to being a beautiful clown in Seattle, being a pony for Playboy TV in West Virginia to dangling from rooftops in Los Angeles. In Berlin I tormented beautiful boys, and in Sydney masturbated with iconic architecture behind me. While being adorned with ridiculously long nails I even learned that I can tie someone up wearing them, but I could not pull up my…

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For those of you who are long-time readers of this blog, you will know that I have rarely in the past done a full blog entry by a guest. I have interviewed allies, written about them, and once posted an email Deborah Anapol sent me about her concept of safer sex. However. when I read this blog entry by Graydancer (who you know I have had on my podcast a few different times), I just was nodding the whole time. Though I considered writing a rebuttal, I felt it was important to share the whole thing. In his graciousness, Graydancer…

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You know what? I had no idea what I was doing when I first started typing people up over 20 years ago. I didn’t know there were so many options, so many reasons to dive in, so many ways it could be excellent! Along the way I have learned a lot of tips, tricks, and core concepts that have changed the way I explore consensual restrain, erotic ropework, and playing with partners… and here is a series of ten things I wish I had known as a bondage top! 1. I Don’t Have To Like All Types Of Bondage 2.…

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Bondage can be a lot of fun, an opportunity for deep connection, a tool for being artistic, and something that can tie us into our core self… or something else altogether. But you know what? I had no idea what I was doing when I first started getting tied up by other people over 20 years ago. Along the way I have learned a lot of tips, tricks, and core concepts that have changed the way I explore consensual restrain, erotic ropework, and playing with partners as someone who gets bound… and here is a series of ten things I…

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