Hello beautiful beings, Monday will be Yule, the darkest night of the year. I find myself thinking back to when I lived in Anchorage, Alaska, when on the 21st of December there would only be light from 10:30am-3pm. You go to bed in the dark, wake in the dark. You build a habit of sleeping with a mask on so that whether it was the depth of wither or the height of summer where the night is that same short length, you can still get shut-eye and trust that your clock knew the time better than your body does. The winter…

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On December 17th, the two of us (Sam Savage & Lee Harrington) were slated to lead two classes on “What Keeps Us in the Shadow: Addressing Harm, Abuse, and Bullying in Metamour Relationships.” After hard discussions, the two of us have agreed to postpone this class until when it can be run either in person, or when sourcing touch is an opportunity available to more attendees. After our first of these discussions (this was intended to be a series of three discussions), Sam and I discussed that even for those of us whom these issues are years in the past,…

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Hello beautiful beings,  I have been enjoying having music around me, and sound in general. Especially for those of us who are social beings, the sound of voices can have us feeling less alone, and perhaps less lonely. Rocking out to my “Sing Along & Dance” mix, swaying and spinning in low lights to “Psytrance Supernova,” and sinking into the power of Kendrick Lamar and Missy Elliot yet again have been so good.   Part of my love for audio around me has included podcasts. This week I had the honor to be on the Kinky Cocktails Podcast to talk about transgender awareness…

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Hello beautiful beings, Today is my personal New Years, with my mother finally birthing me after days of hard work in the hospital just off base where she was stationed at Fort Devens in Massachusetts. She used to joke that at the hospital they has a 10 pound turkey, and a few days later she had one of her own, a smirk on her face and a huge hug.  Historically, I would have called her this morning to say thank you, and share my gratitude for all of her work and love for raising this quirky, loving, spiritual, academic, trouble-maker. Nowadays…

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Hello beautiful beings, This past Wednesday it was my honor to host a discussion/teach on “Approaches to Designing Adult Learning Classes” as part of my Weekly Wednesday series. What a great crew! I feel so honored to have gotten to curate that conversation. By the end of the class we had a few topics that had been asked about that we did not get to, so I’ve decided it will be continued on December 30th – put it on your calendar in advance! For those who couldn’t make it, I wanted to share it. Feel free to share this around…

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Hello beautiful beings, About 15 years ago I went to a CARAS conference in Chicago, and as someone who is passionate about sexuality in general, I felt moved to attend the aging and BDSM class at the event. The presenter talked about their own experience and body realities that can change, and over the course of their 40 minute lecture, the summary of their message was that the older you get, you should become more dominant as you age. By doing so you can find hot younger people to take care of you. The presenter asked if we had any questions. Sitting…

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Hello beautiful beings, There is an amazing speaker, activist, sex worker, and spiritual leader that I need to introduce you to. If you already know the work, good, because you will likely agree that if folks don’t  know about LadySpeeck Sankofa, they should. If you have ever seen the first powerful images of a black woman smudging the police, that is LadySpeech (shown). If you are someone who is inspired by divination, spirit work, and kink alike – that is LadySpeech. If you believe in revolutionary voices for Black lives and liberation, mixed with attitude, sass, and profound power – that…

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Happy Halloween and blessed Samhain beautiful beings, I write to you tonight when the veil is thin between the worlds. This is the first full moon on a Halloween since 1944, and for those of us who celebrate Samhain, where we honor the dead and turn the wheel of the year, it is powerful indeed. I have already spent part of the evening making food for, and enjoying it with, those who have died and are amongst the honored dead.  Earlier today I cleared a sacred sex altar I had built a few months ago and preparing an altar for…

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Hello beautiful beings, Last weekend it was such an honor to be part of a panel on “LGBTQ Queerbodied Intimacy/Sexuality and Relating to Self and Others” for the Embodiment Conference. It was such an honor getting to share virtual space with Ayelet Natan(Israel), Ayo Gry  (Germany), Dr. Robert Allan (Denver, USA), and our wonderful host Moran Bodner (Israel). We shared our wounds, our tools for self-connection, our hopes, and how we are building space for our individual experiences of queerness. You can go here to get some of the resources and notes from the panel, or (since not the live presentation), access the class through a paid event registration.…

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Hello beautiful beings, This weekend I am officiating the wedding of two wonderful friends, and it has been a whirlwind of emotions. The body experience of being around other humans. The complex feelings I has around trying on my suit and how my body has shifted since the last time I wore it. Memories of my own commitment ceremonies in the past, and the various ceremonies I have officiated over the years. “We are not here to witness the beginning of their relationship, but to acknowledge and celebrate a lasting bond that already exists between them.” – From the upcoming…

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