Queer Embodiment, Divination, and Podcasts

Hello beautiful beings,  I have been enjoying having music around me, and sound in general. Especially for those of us who are social beings, the sound of voices can have us feeling less alone, and perhaps less lonely. Rocking out to my “Sing Along & Dance” mix, swaying and spinning in low lights to “Psytrance Supernova,” and sinking into the power of Kendrick Lamar and Missy Elliot yet again have been so good.   Part of my love for audio around me has included podcasts. This week I had the honor to be on the Kinky Cocktails Podcast to talk about transgender awareness…

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Birthday Thoughts, Witchy-ness, and D/s

Hello beautiful beings, Today is my personal New Years, with my mother finally birthing me after days of hard work in the hospital just off base where she was stationed at Fort Devens in Massachusetts. She used to joke that at the hospital they has a 10 pound turkey, and a few days later she had one of her own, a smirk on her face and a huge hug.  Historically, I would have called her this morning to say thank you, and share my gratitude for all of her work and love for raising this quirky, loving, spiritual, academic, trouble-maker. Nowadays…

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Teaching Skills, Dominance, and Submission

Hello beautiful beings, This past Wednesday it was my honor to host a discussion/teach on “Approaches to Designing Adult Learning Classes” as part of my Weekly Wednesday series. What a great crew! I feel so honored to have gotten to curate that conversation. By the end of the class we had a few topics that had been asked about that we did not get to, so I’ve decided it will be continued on December 30th – put it on your calendar in advance! For those who couldn’t make it, I wanted to share it. Feel free to share this around…

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Disability, Sexuality, and Teaching Skills

Hello beautiful beings, About 15 years ago I went to a CARAS conference in Chicago, and as someone who is passionate about sexuality in general, I felt moved to attend the aging and BDSM class at the event. The presenter talked about their own experience and body realities that can change, and over the course of their 40 minute lecture, the summary of their message was that the older you get, you should become more dominant as you age. By doing so you can find hot younger people to take care of you. The presenter asked if we had any questions. Sitting…

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LadySpeech, Supporting Our Own, and Musical Eroticism

Hello beautiful beings, There is an amazing speaker, activist, sex worker, and spiritual leader that I need to introduce you to. If you already know the work, good, because you will likely agree that if folks don’t  know about LadySpeeck Sankofa, they should. If you have ever seen the first powerful images of a black woman smudging the police, that is LadySpeech (shown). If you are someone who is inspired by divination, spirit work, and kink alike – that is LadySpeech. If you believe in revolutionary voices for Black lives and liberation, mixed with attitude, sass, and profound power – that…

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Happy Halloween, Remembered Dead, Erotic Roleplaying, and Disabilities

Happy Halloween and blessed Samhain beautiful beings, I write to you tonight when the veil is thin between the worlds. This is the first full moon on a Halloween since 1944, and for those of us who celebrate Samhain, where we honor the dead and turn the wheel of the year, it is powerful indeed. I have already spent part of the evening making food for, and enjoying it with, those who have died and are amongst the honored dead.  Earlier today I cleared a sacred sex altar I had built a few months ago and preparing an altar for…

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Embodiment, Rope, and Mourning

Hello beautiful beings, Last weekend it was such an honor to be part of a panel on “LGBTQ Queerbodied Intimacy/Sexuality and Relating to Self and Others” for the Embodiment Conference. It was such an honor getting to share virtual space with Ayelet Natan(Israel), Ayo Gry  (Germany), Dr. Robert Allan (Denver, USA), and our wonderful host Moran Bodner (Israel). We shared our wounds, our tools for self-connection, our hopes, and how we are building space for our individual experiences of queerness. You can go here to get some of the resources and notes from the panel, or (since not the live presentation), access the class through a paid event registration.…

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Commitment Ceremonies, Queer Magic, and Masturbation

Hello beautiful beings, This weekend I am officiating the wedding of two wonderful friends, and it has been a whirlwind of emotions. The body experience of being around other humans. The complex feelings I has around trying on my suit and how my body has shifted since the last time I wore it. Memories of my own commitment ceremonies in the past, and the various ceremonies I have officiated over the years. “We are not here to witness the beginning of their relationship, but to acknowledge and celebrate a lasting bond that already exists between them.” – From the upcoming…

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Nonbinary and Intersex, Intentional Relationships, and Polyamory

Hello beautiful beings, Whew! This past week was a rollercoaster! You heard the adventure lineup in last week’s newsletter, and thank you so much to all the folks that came out to Folsom Street Fair Online, my classes at Black Thorn, Wicked Grounds, Academy of Fetish Arts, or were part of the two very tender topic’s conversations I hosted with Sam Savage at Nerd Somatics. Those discussions were intense for me emotionally. Sam and I did a lot of processing work with each other prepping for the conversations on naming harmful behavior and abuse in polyamory metamour relationships. We each have had our own experiences…

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Han Solo, Magick, and Erotic Skillbuilding

Hello beautiful beings, This weekend I had the honor of co-teaching “Turning It Around: Switching Places in the Bedroom” with Ms. Cenna at the Virtual Intimacy Retreat. Having 20+ passionate people open up about their nervousness around sharing their fantasies and desires, as well as their uncertainties around how to deliver those desires, was really beautiful. One of the things we talked about was what I call the “Hans Solo Effect,” where people who grew up during and after Star Wars saw a leading man approach a dominant woman and do some toxic and yet sexy behavior.  Hans comes before Leia and says, effectively,…

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