Hello beautiful beings It’s late at night and Lou Reed is playing over my living room speakers. Dancing a fine line of inspiration and desperation, the lyrics of Dirty Boulevard dance their way through the air. It turns songs and Walk On The Wild Sidetakes its turn, memories coming back to me of 1995 sitting in a café with bottomless coffee and creamer in Portland as I talk with sex workers and queer punks about life, love, hope, and trying to find places to crash away from a home that was toxic. That amazing 1972 single whose A-side was “Perfect…

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Hello beautiful beings! I write to you from my wonderful new desk chair, having spent the morning attending a class at QueeRope, a queer and rope bondage crossover event hosted by Karada House in Berlin. One of the silver linings, the delights, the points of beauty out of this year that has caused such hurt, harm, and heartache has been having events like QueeRope become available worldwide. True, I’m having to be online by 8am to attend the 3rd class slot (if I want to attend live), let alone 330am for the first class slot… but compared to having to…

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Hello beautiful beings! I write to you tonight from Denver, Colorado. I’m all moved in, with just a trip to IKEA (this weekend) needed to unpack the boxes that are stacked up. It’s as if your intrepid instigator owns a lot of books! The smooth trip with my friend Gay Sunshine was such a gift from the universe, though driving through small towns in Texas found us in many places where everyone was unmasked, so we were glad to be double masked and having brought enough food for our entire journey. Gay even gave me props for mad snack magic…

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Hello beautiful beings, I am still on an intellectual and emotional buzz from last weekend. Having 19 attendees, two crew, and myself dive into a three-day journey into our personal desires and the practical tools to make them happen concerning power exchange, authority transfer relationships, dominance, submission, and so much more. Each Delving Into Power is unique because on the Friday night I sit down with everyone and go over their intentions, desires, and interests for discussion, and format the weekend as a balance between what was scheduled and what the realities are for the people in the room. This…

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Hello beautiful beings, Amanda Gorman’s amazing performance of her poem “The Hill We Climb” at the Inauguration of President Biden and Vice President Harris was a stunning piece of art that is going to echo in my heart for some time to come.  When day comes we ask ourselves, where can we find light in this never-ending shade? This weekend I am leading called “Delving Into Power,” where 19 amazing adventurers will be going on a journey into exploring their dominance, submission, and desires for power exchange or authority transfer relationships. This notion to me of finding light and the…

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Hello beautiful beings, The past two Weekly Wednesdays have been absolutely delicious, and I’m feeling such gratitude for folks who showed up this week for the discussion on body modification for trans bodies. We had planned for an hour and a half, but about half of us went for another half an hour before I called it. This could honestly be a 4+ hour class/discussion.  I need to really consider for this Wednesday series how to narrow down my focus again, because January discussions both ran out of time! Because of this, I promised the folks who attended the teaching…

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Hello beautiful beings, I write you tonight on the last full moon of 2020, clear and cool outside on a beautiful Texas night. Tonight over on Instagram I pulled the Two of Sword on the Winter Waite tarot deck as my #CardOfTheDay, which has left me reflecting on the places we are perhaps frozen in place in making decisins, the places where hard choices are being made in our lives – some which we have enough information on, and others we need to take our blindfolds off to see something new that was not there when the debate first crossed our path. After today’s…

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Hello beautiful beings, Monday will be Yule, the darkest night of the year. I find myself thinking back to when I lived in Anchorage, Alaska, when on the 21st of December there would only be light from 10:30am-3pm. You go to bed in the dark, wake in the dark. You build a habit of sleeping with a mask on so that whether it was the depth of wither or the height of summer where the night is that same short length, you can still get shut-eye and trust that your clock knew the time better than your body does. The winter…

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On December 17th, the two of us (Sam Savage & Lee Harrington) were slated to lead two classes on “What Keeps Us in the Shadow: Addressing Harm, Abuse, and Bullying in Metamour Relationships.” After hard discussions, the two of us have agreed to postpone this class until when it can be run either in person, or when sourcing touch is an opportunity available to more attendees. After our first of these discussions (this was intended to be a series of three discussions), Sam and I discussed that even for those of us whom these issues are years in the past,…

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Hello beautiful beings,  I have been enjoying having music around me, and sound in general. Especially for those of us who are social beings, the sound of voices can have us feeling less alone, and perhaps less lonely. Rocking out to my “Sing Along & Dance” mix, swaying and spinning in low lights to “Psytrance Supernova,” and sinking into the power of Kendrick Lamar and Missy Elliot yet again have been so good.   Part of my love for audio around me has included podcasts. This week I had the honor to be on the Kinky Cocktails Podcast to talk about transgender awareness…

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