Kinky Campers Have S’more Fun!

Hello beautiful beings, I write to you from the Baltimore, Maryland area, loading up the gear from the staff of Camp Crucible as we prep to pack in for this amazing 9-day event. Over breakfast we talked about what has been happening on the DC venue The Crucible for which the event is named, and it is fantastic to hear about all of the events that have been happening there from dance parties to dungeons, weddings to safe spaces for often oppressed populations. It has also been beautiful talking about the founder of this space, “Uncle Frazier,” who passed away a few…

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Age Play, Kinky Camping, and Self Bondage, oh my!

Hello beautiful beings, I have just gotten back from Colorado Leather Fest and re-packed for my upcoming weekend at the Academy of Fetish Arts in Cleveland. The event was an intense emotional ride that many people I know are processing right now. I am so grateful for having attended the class “Queer LeatherSex in the 21st Century” by Sir Luke and His victor, as well as getting to know them better. It was such a delight to reconnect with MitaBear and Team Soup at the event, as well as so many others I had not seen in a long time.…

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Authenticity, Animal Roleplay, Identity, and Connection

Hello beautiful beings, Spring has fully sprung and Denver is alive with greens returning to the trees and the squirrels playing what I call “Squirrel TV.” What is Squirrel TV you ask? It is when I can sit for hours at my front windows watching the squirrels live out their lives full of delight, drama, challenge, and stillness – because who needs TV when you can have squirrels.  I just got back from Austin, Texas, where I had the honor of getting to teach and lead five classes or discussions at Leather Pride in Texas. I loved getting to co-lead…

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Queer Magic, Erotic Pain Processing, and Leather Pride

Hello beautiful beings, This past week I did something for the first time – I put one of tarot spreads out into the world.This This past week I did something for the first time – I put one of tarot spreads out into the world. The RACK tarot spread is a way to examine risk, awareness, consent, and the kinks in our life using tarot cards, whether doing divination or as journaling prompts… or even if looking for inspiration when planning an erotic encounter with a partner. Combining this with attending a great tarot class with Kaí Henderson from Our Daily Magic…

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Traversing Gender, Chain Bondage, and Negotiations

Hello beautiful beings, My heart has been shaking as of late as I watch the truly toxic legislations and attempts at legislation against transgender people and transgender children specifically. There are a lot of people I know out there who do not understand that, as a recent meme I saw said, transgender people are not trying to turn cisgender children into trans children. We are trying to help transgender children become adults. The sheer number of trans youth who try to commit suicide because of not being supported is staggering, and having the very states and countries in which you live devalue…

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Practicing Tools, Power Exchange, Oral, And Butt Ropes

Hello beautiful beings, The snow is falling in a mad flurry in Denver, a reminder that winter has not yet wrapped up and that it is okay to still have our spirits bundled up kept warm. I have been dancing with my own complexities of spirit and body alike, finding support when I remember to during the challenges of relationship evolution, body pain, and emotional flow alike. Perhaps my spine and hips have known the snow is coming again, or perhaps it is simply being in my body. Yesterday I was given the chance to talk with someone else who…

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Vulnerability, Cancelations, and Appearances

Dear beautiful beings, This is a tender letter to write. I hope it will be received with support and love, as I know the process of writing it is being one that has been imperfect in giving myself those things. Giving ourselves love and support is a practices, and practices require practice. I am practicing here with you. Over the past 6 weeks, my migraines, vertigo (likely my Meniere’s disease), headaches, and likely my TLE (temporal lobe epilepsy) have been acting up. My lower back and SI joint have also been having adventures. These in turn affects my mental health,…

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DC Bondage, Gender Constructs, Negotiating, and D/s

Hello beautiful beings, Just back from 4 days camping outside of Salida, Colorado, my skin still feels alive from the Arkansas River and quality time spent.  I am both nervous and excited about my upcoming travel for teaching “Speed Bondage!” in-person 8/20 at The Crucible in downtown DC (tickets available here), Crucible Weekend 8/21-24 in N. Maryland (a few tickets available as of yesterday), which will let me gear up for the rest of my summer travel. My travel schedule was based off of the “before times.” For those who have followed me for a while, historically between May and September, I am…

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Pride, Dark Roleplaying, Trans Desire, and Queer Tarot

Hello beautiful beings, Happy Pride week from Denver! I am so delighted to get to celebrate it with my friend Quill visiting from England, and it was fantastic to co-host the discussion this week on moving forward with sex positive events and play parties with him on Wednesday. Thank you to everyone who came out to join us for a rich dialogue on the topic. It was also great that MxBliss was able to share with all of the attendees (and all of you) this fantastic resource from their own discussion on the topic recently, and also that Reid Mahalkho was able to host a panel on…

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Heat, Polyamory, Objectification, and Auto-Erotic Play

Hello beautiful beings, I am melting. It is 99 degrees outside and in this beautiful apartment I do not have air conditioning. There is air conditioning in the hallway, so I pop open my door, point a fan going inside, and funnel it in. It does feel hilarious though. I am also feeling so loved though because upon hearing about this a friend is long-term loaning me their portable unit shortly… so blessed. In excitement though, today Colby Marie spent our first day in person working together as we began into the next chapter of my Beautiful Vistas oracle deck…

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