Mental Wellness, Inebriated Eroticism, and Disability Resources

Hello beautiful beings, April 15th and the snow fell again in Denver, coating the trees outside my window in an inch of white and alternating between a soft sensuality and a vicious cold that blows sideways waking up anyone caught in the wind. This stands in stark contrast to the delicious sun and 70 degrees of last week when tank tops left tan lines on my shoulders. It holds up a mirror to my mood disorder before I did the “work” and learned that medicine can be an ally rather than a crutch or bondage that keeps me frozen in place. …

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Kink & Disabilities (Video & Transcript)

In my Weekly Wednesday series, on November 4th 2020 we dove into the topic of BDSM and Disabilities. From personal experience and life lessons learned, we talked about the experiences and creative approaches to diverse sexualities for people with various physical, neurological, or mental illnesses and disabilities. Getting freaky, kinky, and exploring dominance or submission is desired by many people, and people on such journeys have unique realities in these explorations or play. In this discussion we talked about how having disabilities can affect how we do BDSM and other kinks – This includes visible or invisible disabilities, neurological non-normativity,…

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Blessings, Sacred Kink, Switching, and Silliness

Hello beautiful beings, What a whirlwind of a week, wow! I taught 4 classes, was interviewed for a documentary on kink community, saw coaching clients, had the first meeting with my new personal assistant, and managed to get time in to see a friend. I’m tired just writing about it. No, actually I feel really blessed and energized, able to take on some challenges that life is presenting right now with more patience and calm (plus having friends be game to talk with me during an anxiety moment helps too). This week I also had a chance to do something…

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Transformation, Disabilities, Leather, Teaching Skills, and Sacred Transness

Hello beautiful beings, Remember how last week I talked about how the Wednesday series can sometimes be draining? Well, thank you universe for blessing me with this past week! Wow. For those who missed “Mythologies and Beliefs About Transgender and Non-Binary Experience”… what an adventure. We had a mix of non-binary, trans, and cisgender attendees with a wide variety of experience and the passion was electric. I want to specifically thank the brave person who asked for permission to voice their anger about how they interact with and have (or don’t have) connections with queer and trans communities… and the…

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Sacred Sensuality, Patreon Changes, and Ikigai

Hello beautiful being, It is beautiful here in Denver, around 50 degrees, crisp and clear. This amuses me though because less than a week ago there was a blizzard that shut down the city, and this coming week snow is expected once more. This area is beautiful but fickle – towering peaks and rich greenery buffered by the heat of the sun that reflects so much more a mile up. I have felt the same way about life recently. The shadow of anti-trans hate speech in a double-burst yesterday, balanced out by the beauty of friends holding space for me…

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Musical Time Travel, Dirty Talk, and Food Play

Hello beautiful beings It’s late at night and Lou Reed is playing over my living room speakers. Dancing a fine line of inspiration and desperation, the lyrics of Dirty Boulevard dance their way through the air. It turns songs and Walk On The Wild Sidetakes its turn, memories coming back to me of 1995 sitting in a café with bottomless coffee and creamer in Portland as I talk with sex workers and queer punks about life, love, hope, and trying to find places to crash away from a home that was toxic. That amazing 1972 single whose A-side was “Perfect…

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Trans Allyship, D/s, Ethics, and Sacredness

Hello beautiful beings! I write to you from my wonderful new desk chair, having spent the morning attending a class at QueeRope, a queer and rope bondage crossover event hosted by Karada House in Berlin. One of the silver linings, the delights, the points of beauty out of this year that has caused such hurt, harm, and heartache has been having events like QueeRope become available worldwide. True, I’m having to be online by 8am to attend the 3rd class slot (if I want to attend live), let alone 330am for the first class slot… but compared to having to…

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Travel, Primal Play, and Authentic Teaching

Hello beautiful beings! I write to you tonight from Denver, Colorado. I’m all moved in, with just a trip to IKEA (this weekend) needed to unpack the boxes that are stacked up. It’s as if your intrepid instigator owns a lot of books! The smooth trip with my friend Gay Sunshine was such a gift from the universe, though driving through small towns in Texas found us in many places where everyone was unmasked, so we were glad to be double masked and having brought enough food for our entire journey. Gay even gave me props for mad snack magic…

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Sacred Sensuality, Power, and Online Teaching

Hello beautiful beings, I am still on an intellectual and emotional buzz from last weekend. Having 19 attendees, two crew, and myself dive into a three-day journey into our personal desires and the practical tools to make them happen concerning power exchange, authority transfer relationships, dominance, submission, and so much more. Each Delving Into Power is unique because on the Friday night I sit down with everyone and go over their intentions, desires, and interests for discussion, and format the weekend as a balance between what was scheduled and what the realities are for the people in the room. This…

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Poetry, Passion, and Queer Age Play

Hello beautiful beings, Amanda Gorman’s amazing performance of her poem “The Hill We Climb” at the Inauguration of President Biden and Vice President Harris was a stunning piece of art that is going to echo in my heart for some time to come.  When day comes we ask ourselves, where can we find light in this never-ending shade? This weekend I am leading called “Delving Into Power,” where 19 amazing adventurers will be going on a journey into exploring their dominance, submission, and desires for power exchange or authority transfer relationships. This notion to me of finding light and the…

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