Pieces of Passion 8 – Breathe Together

MingDestiny and I just attended a fabulous class taught by Cleo Dubois and Eve Minax at the SF Citadel this evening. This Pieces of Passion is dedicated to those two hard working women in the world of Kink and Erotic Authenticity…

Pieces of Passion
Piece #8 Breathe Together

We stood ten feet apart, facing away from one another, as Minax had us all breathe in time as we counted. One, belly expanding, in through nose, then out through relaxed lips. Two, belly expanding, in through nose, out through relaxed lips and belly contracting. Three, belly expanding, in through nose, out through relaxed lips, and turn around to face one another.

She stood still, and ten feet apart we kept breathing together until I smirked, breathed in a bit deeper, and she did the same. Her eyes lit up to my smirk, to this breath of joy, and I beckoned her forward. She tried to resist, she had been told to, but I beckoned her forward again with an upturned hand and then slid that hand down, my breath matching hers, until her eyes were locked to my hand, crotch, visual. She wiggled across the room with glee.

Sales techniques tapes and relationship coaches all agree- breath is a powerful tool. I was reminded of this over and over tonight, as I matched my Service Slut’s breath, and then caught her eye in some way.

Try some of the following exercises with your play partner, lover, friend, or someone you want to bond with:

* Sit behind them, your chest to their back, and breathe in time watching the same movie, sports, or other visual and audio event.
* Sit side by side, shoulders touching, and when they slump, you slump, and when they sit up straight, you sit up straight.
* Sit or stand back to back, and repeat the above event.
* Listen to a breathing tape together, and follow along with the instructions in time with one another.

Setting breath with another human being is a great way to set each others mood and/or intention to be in accordance with one another. If you are fighting- stop. Watch how they are breathing. Are you in accordance with them? If you are and don’t like it- see about lowing *your* breath and see if their connection to you has their breath, and tension level, follow to a calmer level. In turn, if you want to ramp up energy- match their breath, then start breathing heavier, and slowly egg their unconscious body into listening to yours 🙂

Breathe in. Breathe out. Repeat. Hold as needed. Add as needed. Spice and flavor and bliss.


Lee Harrington

Lee Harrington is an internationally known sexuality, relationships, and personal authenticity educator. Having taught in all 50 states and in 6 countries, he brings a combination of playful engagement and thoughtful academic dialogue to a broad audience. An award-winning author and editor on gender, sexual, and sacred experience, his books include “Traversing Gender: Understanding Transgender Journeys,” and "Sacred Kink: The Eightfold Paths of BDSM and Beyond," among many other titles. He has been blogging online since 1998, and been teaching worldwide since 2001. Welcome to his world, and your chance to expand your mind and heart alike.

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