Pieces of Passion 10 – Masturbation for Passion – May is National Masturbation Month

May (just a few days away) is national masturbation month, with Masturbate-a-thons happening for charity and people having lots of great masturbation for world peace and more!
San Francisco, CA: Center for Sex and Culture May 2nd
(do it from home!) http://www.masturbate-a-thon.com/participatehome.php
Portland, OR: DarkLady’s Masturbate-a-thon May 30th
Masturbate for Peace

Pieces of Passion
Piece #10: Masturbation for Passion

When was the last time you masturbated with your partner?
Masturbated side by side?
One watching or telling dirty stories whole the other masturbates?
Talked about your favorite sorts of masturbation?

Watching your partner masturbate and actually paying attention is a fascinating way to learn the erotic geography of their flesh. Are they a lay-on-their-back type or a humper? A vibrational fan or a silent tension type? Do they prefer slow strokes or fast hard pressure? Lube and toys or au natural? Making love to themselves mood light and all, or wam bam thank you mam?

Many people are shy about masturbating in front of their partner for a variety of reasons:
-Fear of being criticized
-Thinking their style is weird or wrong
-Wondering if their partner will change how they play with them
-Someone told them once masturbation is wrong/dirty/horrid
-Beings elf conscious about how they look when they cum
-… and more

If your partner seems unsure, try making the idea as inviting to them as possible. If you have a power exchange dynamic, couch it in terms of an order. If they are shy, offer to do it side by side with neither of you “staring” the first time. If they fear criticism/being weird, make sure you set a precedent beforehand of being an active listener/watcher without needing to comment on everything you witness, and respect their need for support.

No two people masturbate the exact same way. Learn your partner, and surprise, learn you too! Maybe in seeing them play with themselves you’ll get ideas on how to improve your own masturbation, your partnered sex, and more!

Live, Laugh, Love… yours in Passion and Soul,
Lee Harrington


Lee Harrington

Lee Harrington is an internationally known sexuality, relationships, and personal authenticity educator. Having taught in all 50 states and in 6 countries, he brings a combination of playful engagement and thoughtful academic dialogue to a broad audience. An award-winning author and editor on gender, sexual, and sacred experience, his books include “Traversing Gender: Understanding Transgender Journeys,” and "Sacred Kink: The Eightfold Paths of BDSM and Beyond," among many other titles. He has been blogging online since 1998, and been teaching worldwide since 2001. Welcome to his world, and your chance to expand your mind and heart alike.

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